The definition of love is one of the most misunderstood words in our culture. Most people think that love is a emotional drive of excitement, rapid heart beats, butterflies, the fuzzy wuzzies....etc....when youre around that special someone. When those feelings go away most people often say, Hey....I guess Im not in love with him/her anymore then he/she just abandons ship! Can love consist of feelings? Sure, it certainly can. Are feelings the core of what love is? No. Feelings are like the outer-body of a vehicle, it makes the car look nice - you can even have some dents and scratches; but love is like the engine - its not seen on the outside but its proven in action, its the power that makes it move forward. Feelings are not the power nor the core of love. A relationship that relies on feelings is infatuation or lust. Its I love you....but its circumstantial. This is what our culture is so confused with and thinks that good vibes and emotions is the essence of love when in fact, its not. Love is pretty simple to grasp yet its so deep and rich. The two core drivers to make love to be in its truest form are: 1. Commitment 2. Sacrifice Commitment - regardless of emotional feelings, love is a sense of the will within the heart of a man, or woman, to make the determination within themselves that I will never leave you, no matter what. No matter if your nice today or a jerk tomorrow, no matter if Im attracted to you today or not attracted to you tomorrow, no matter if we get along today or if we get on each others nerves tomorrow. Im committed to you every day. Im committed to you to the end because I love you. Humans are emotional creatures. Sometimes, for no reason at all, I wake up with a BAD attitude.....dont judge :) .....Things could be going great in my life but Im just irritated and my wife gets the worst of it! I thank God that she truly loves me and that she doesnt base our marriage and her love for me on feelings and circumstances! Her and I are committed to each other because we love each other. Sacrifice - love upholds the other person above themselves, above his/her own personal dreams and goals. Sacrifice coincides with commitment as it relates to a mindset and self controlled will - a person has a choice to be sacrificial in his/her motives and intentions or not. A person who has a sacrificial attitude while upholding the other person above their own is one who doesnt let their feelings control them but controls their feelings by being committed. Its a matter of surrendering your own personal dreams and goals to put his/her dreams and goals above your own. Someone who masters this attribute of love will put the others desires immediately first even before considering his/her own when making a decision about anything. If two people come together with one of them being selfish person - the other may be prevented from doing what they may be called to do. Perhaps one dream would be fulfilled while the other is left in the dust. Or, if both are selfish - its constant competition and agitation against one another to fulfill their own dreams. Either no dreams will be fulfilled or if both dreams are fulfilled, its usually because they split up/got a divorce. When two people come together in marriage and both are acting out in this sacrificial way, both are putting each others dreams above their own; both will help to fulfill both dreams. Its a win win. Sacrifice wins. Commitment + Sacrifice = Love This is who God is. God is love.
Posted on: Sat, 29 Mar 2014 19:54:08 +0000
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