The incredible women generation this article written by a Brazilian reflects the reality of a woman in the world nowadays I see myself here so much and many girlfriends .An independent woman pays a high price and many times she will look for being alone to avoid all those questions of a man I translated quickly the text to post it in English Abaixo em português . Sometimes I catch myself imagining a hypothetical man who describes the woman of his dreams: She has to work and study hard, has got to have her inbox always crowded with emails. The feet must have calluses and blisters because she walks with very high heels up and down . She is elegant . She should be independent and do what she wants with her own salary: buy an expensive bag, donate to a social project, take a trip alone .Needs to drive well and understand income tax. She does not need to have a worked out body because they do not have time to do all that she does and go to the gym. But above of all: she has to be sure of herself and do not want to depend on me or anyone else. However I have not heard this speech of any man. Not even part of it. Maybe that is why Im single still here in the fight. The fact is that Ive been thinking about it. It has created an amazing dissonance between what we, girls and young women have received and the expectation of most boys, young men, women and old men. What our parents expect of us? What we expect from us? And what do they expect from us? We are the generation that was created to win the world. Encouraged to study, work, travel and above all, build our independence. The few cakes I ever made never made my mothers eyes shine like the tests I got with 10 grades .The days when I got ready to leave flawlessly never stamped on the face of my father a proud smile as he gave when I entered my master degree . When I decided to do a short course of notions of gourmand and cooking my parents found cool. But when I decided to do a short course in French language and civilization at Sorbonne they inflated their chest like pigeons. We have had no sewing class. Not learned to prepare a meat . Was not called to change the diaper of a cousin baby. Not explained to us the difference between bleach and cleaning stuff . Just as happened with the boys of our generation, we were taught sports. We did learn English. Learn to drive. Learn how to build a good resume. Working without fear and to invest our money. Just as happened with the boys of our generation. But, listen, someone remembered to warn those boys how we would be like? We would be fighting jobs places with them? We would rather dine out than rather cook dinner? We would like beer, whiskey, football and UFC? We would not have patience in giving too much satisfaction? We would be created to find happiness in freedom and dread into submission? Then, we, with our social executive crumpled shirt at the end of the day, our heavy purse, cell phone beeping with 26 new emails, girlfriends waiting for dinner, car unwashed, 4 meetings scheduled for tomorrow, ask yourself what the hell is the guy who wants me? . Maybe if I was more delicate ... not speak bad words. Had not subordinates working under my leadership , Not driving alone at night without fear. Maybe if I appeared the fragility. Maybe if I said I do not mind washing an underwear. Maybe ... But no. These are not we. We want a companion, side by side, as equals. Many of us dream of having children. But not only them. We want to be able to cook a risotto. But we want to die if we get a blender as birthday present . We want to tell them how our day was. But we will not allow anyone to question our routine. The fact is, who was educated to want us? Who is safe enough to love a woman who flies? Who is willing to make us want to land at his side at the end of the day? Who understands you that lie on his chest is our way of asking for a lap ? And sometimes we will need their lap and sometimes we just want company for a wine? What are the generation of the partnership and not of dependence? And Im not here on a tirade, blaming men. No. The fault is not just theirs . It is the society as a whole. The mis education . Image of woman that is still sold . Of the parents who raise daughters to the world, but want daughters in law to live for family function. At the end we are nothing like the collective unconscious mind expects from women . And the best if all : we dont want to be. Let it be very clear: were not going backwards. So its this mentality that will have to move forward. Weve opened ourselves to win the world. now it is the world that has got to turn around to win us back.
Posted on: Sat, 21 Jun 2014 01:43:09 +0000
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