The influence of people: Everyone influences you, whether you like it or not, notice it or not or even care about it or not. Simply, we all become the company we keep but we keep the influence our company has kept. It goes both ways. You influence others, others influence you. Weve all been trained to learn and theres not a damned thing we can do. Except position ourselves within the crowds and selectively engage with people. Ive found that people who shut in are more influenced by the people they are associated with. Unlike the people who associate with many people who arent as easily influenced. Before everyone reading this gets the wrong idea about what I mean by influence though.... Let me explain; Weve probably all heard of our parents say that certain people are a good or bad influence probably more often bad than good. Influencing can be anything from convincing someone to do something to simply allowing someone to feel comfortable doing something by my not textbook definition. Basically its changing someones behavior, actions or habbits. Ive found that people who hang out with only a few people tend to be much like them. They feel tight knit and theyll even describe their relationships as being as such. People who go to many public events and parties tend to see themselves more free and often times lonely, like they cant connect on a deeper level. Which, is usually resolved by dating people and picking a single person to be your partner. Thus creating a relationship that will be closer than everyone else. So, why is it important to know this? Simply because if you can understand that youre going to become like people you hang out with you can see a bit of your future self in them. If you dont like what you see, naturally youll not want to be around them. Or you wont adopt their traits that you dont like as fast or easily. It is inevitable though, dont kid yourself about that. Unless of course you seek the company of many people to influence you back and forth to a degree that you will create your own balance. You can actually choose your influence though. By finding aspects of people that you enjoy and actively trying them out regularly in hopes that they stick. Even just putting yourself in similar scenarios where these personality traits would appear is enough to get them to stick. That is, if you practice them. For example, I used to hang out with a highly intelligent psychologist very often for many years as a kid. Now, to this day he has exhibited a shift in personality towards mine and mine to his. Ive taken up psychology as he took up video games. Ive learned how to explain things better, as hes learned to relate things more. Or how I used to watch vlogers on youtube a lot as a young teenager. I became very public with myself after that and learned to accept criticism. Two traits of vloggers that I had observed and absorbed. With all of this in mind, I ask. What has influenced your personality in this life?
Posted on: Sun, 30 Mar 2014 22:14:02 +0000
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