The kind of messages I get in my inbox often leave me a little introspective because the struggle of what it means to be a woman is so profoundly reflected back to me. Women around the world, perhaps in another country, perhaps right next door, perhaps inside us, are going through big and little, public and private griefs. Its always a reminder for me to be grateful certainly, but also to try and be kind. Who knows what that woman I just brushed off at the dinner party/school pickup/grocery run is going through? When I wrote about my baby shower a few days ago, I wrote this: We have to stop attaching judgment to giving and receiving love and start believing that we are good enough. As is. Where is. And it struck a chord with more than reader who decided to share their stories with me...Their stories of never feeling good enough in front of the people nearest and dearest to them...fathers, mothers, husbands, inlaws. No matter what they did, it was never good enough. And their notes made me angry for them. Angry at...I guess, the world, or at the very least, our society? All these women, smart, educated women, generally accomplished and confident, suddenly doubting themselves because of some emotional manipulation game that someone else decides to play because of their own complexes. It shouldnt be like this. It shouldnt be like this. There should be a better way of living. Of loving. Of being. I guess this sounds like a bit of a rant, so Ill stop here. I just wanted to say to any one who is reading this and feeling a little low today: You are good enough. You are good as you are. Dont let anyone play mind games or convince you otherwise that if you do xyz, you will become a better you. Dont let people bullshit you into this change/growth/tryharder stuff. You are good as you are. You are good despite your flaws and flukes and follies. You are good even if you make mistakes. You are good. Full stop. Love yourself. that i would be good even if i did nothing that i would be good even if i got the thumbs down that i would be good if i got and stayed sick that i would be good even if i gained ten pounds that i would be fine even if i went bankrupt that i would be good if i lost my hair and my youth that i would be great if i was no longer queen that i would be grand if i was not all knowing that i would be loved even when i numb myself that i would be good even when im overwhelmed that i would be loved even when i was fuming that i would be good even if i was clingy that i would be good even if i lost sanity that i would be good whether with or without you - Alanis Morrissette.
Posted on: Wed, 03 Sep 2014 11:37:16 +0000