There are certain relationships that we dont want to end; we truly just want them to improve. Sometimes it may seem like that will only happen if one person started acting differently - maybe with more kindness, understanding, more respect, compassion, consideration or thoughtfulness. Ive come to a realization that we cant change other people; we can only change how we respond to them. At times we may find this incredibly frustrating because we might not know what we could do differently. All we know is that we want to be treated better and we are tired of feeling bad. As much as we may want someone to fill a certain role in our lives - they have to want it themselves also. If they dont, its our job to recognize this so we dont continually cause ourselves unnecessary pain trying to force something that quite frankly is just not working. I call this process tough love. Little in this world is more painful than wanting to be close to someone but knowing its a recipe for disaster. Its harder when we think it could be so simple if that person could just realize how much we care and try, even if a little, to reciprocate it like we deserve. We cant make someone else make an effort. Although it might be hard, we can make smart decisions for our own well-being. This may inspire someone else to change, it may not. Either way, we need to honor the most important relationship in our lives - the one we have with ourselves. -Paige Hathaway
Posted on: Mon, 01 Dec 2014 03:09:15 +0000
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