This differentiation is exactly the point when we shift our thinkings focus from oppositional duality to genuine inquiry. When people are determined to argue, there can never be discussion, for once ones mind has set domination-subordination choice as their general pattern of thinking--as their initiating conceptual framework and aim in all they do, then no matter what our effort, their choice in that, will prevail. Weve all tried to have a conversation with someone intent only on having an argument--and experienced the result. Its hard to miss the domination intent when being baited by those determined to try and force conflict. Nothing can be shared, learned, discovered from such episodes; and generally the lesson to learn is that there is no respect, mutuality, shared values, cooperative intention, mutual aid--or love, motivating this behavior. Whether we engage in these thinking-behavior patterns within our own Self-to-self relationship, or in our relationships with others, they are destructive to honest and meaningful experiences; and to participate is to enable, and perpetuate. Our self-awareness includes learning about what drives, motivates, and manifests behavior as our actions. Whether we engage or disengage from any interaction we are still the initiator of our own choices; and that is a power many people prefer we fear, mistrust, misunderstand, be blind to, refuse, be confused about, and in every way believe it is no ours to be responsible for. Our Self-to-self learning is about discovering the truth, about ourselves. As this post says, Discussion is always better than Argument...
Posted on: Sun, 14 Sep 2014 09:26:48 +0000
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