"This model of parenting requires for us to do the inner work that allows us to become confident in asserting our boundaries and requests, rather than constantly feeling torn inside, giving confusing messages, then cutting corners and simply demanding that children do what they’re told. Disciplining a child in the truest sense of the word as it relates to teaching really does work best when we can draw on the self-discipline it takes to be clear. When we feel weak and fear that others won’t take us seriously, we tend to feel a lot of inner conflict that is reflected in our words, our tone of voice and body language. Our words may express a request or a boundary while our body language gives the message that we’re not so clear ourselves about what we need or deserve. Our inner conflict tends to distort the communication and confuse the person listening be they 4, 14 or 40! Our children feel more drawn to follow our lead when we lead with clarity, confidence and kindess."
Posted on: Mon, 26 Aug 2013 13:16:09 +0000
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