"To expose our wounds to people we care about – the icky stuff, the ego stuff, the personal growth edges we’re working on that we haven’t yet mastered — is super vulnerable. Letting others see our “big ugly tails” tends to trigger all our core fears of rejection and abandonment, of withdrawal of love. But to bear witness to someone’s wound is a privilege and an opportunity to deepen the relationship beyond the idealistic views we might have of each other into the real truth of both our light and our shadows. This doesn’t mean it’s anyone else’s job to baby our “owies.” But when we’ve exposed our vulnerable wounds to those we care about — and asked, but not expected them to tread gently around our wounds, we have a choice. We can poke needles into each other’s wounds — because now we know them and dang it, it’s their dark stuff to work on. Or we can choose to put salve on the wounds of those we love — not codependent salve that enables the wound, but more like a gentle touch with lavender oil to make something stinky smell a bit sweeter and to acknowledge the vulnerability and handle it gently."
Posted on: Wed, 05 Jun 2013 14:38:42 +0000
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