WHY NOT RECONSIDER? Gone were the days when the criteria for choosing a husband was strictly religion. I remember vividly during my school days when ladies write to the MSS notifying them of their interest in a particular brother because of his involvement and high participation in religious activities. I was a victim too. A lady picked interest in me after I delivered a little nasiha in her department. That was the ways of our muslim sisters some few years back. What went wrong? The way and manner our sisters choose a husband nowadays has almost completely diverted to materialistic things. It is sad that our parents too have follow suit. It is rather astonishing witnessing a parent sending away a religious person who came to seek for their daughters hand in marriage just because he is poor. We can categorically say that we were lucky to have married long ago. I made a personal research on reasons why the youths dont marry on time, to my dismay, the reasons werent religion rather worldly. The criterias our parents & our sisters consider in selecting a husband nowadays are mostly tied down to status, like are you a degree holder, are you a business tycoon, how wealthy are your parents or family, do you own a house or a car? And a host of others. And even if you are considered, you have to provide boxes filled with wrappers, shoes, cosmetics, bangles and earrings sometimes gold plated ones etc. Coupled with all these, you also have to rent a house to shelter the lady which sometimes specifications are laid for you on the type of house you are to rent. With all these trends, marriage becomes difficult for the youths. Those factors are what gave birth to the high rate of indecency in our society today. Something has to be done to help curb this menace harming our society. It is not a difficult task, it only requires the participation of everybody especially the parents to effect change. A hadith of the rasul states that if any person whom you approve of his religion and character comes to seek for your daughters hand in marriage, marry her to him or else their will evolve fitnah and a great destruction. Most ladies who marry because of worldly things usually face humiliation from their spouse; some even get divorced. A hausa proverb states that kwadayi...mabudin wahala. Meaning: Longer throat is the key opener to hardship. Lets help those who seek marriage by sponsoring and creating opportunities for them to be able to marry and sustain their family. What is the essence of being together if not to make life easier for each other...? Lastly, wouldnt it better if you marry out your daughter and still feed her and her husband than watch her useless her life through all form of indecencies? Think about it. And as for all our sisters out there, my advise to you is that character and religion should be your criteria for selecting a husband because you already know that a brother who fears Allah will treat you good, not because he loves you but because he fears Allah in the first place. May Allah transform our society into a descipline and descent place for the sake of our children.
Posted on: Sat, 11 Oct 2014 06:09:06 +0000
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