What encouraging advice can you offer this Bonus-mom in dealing with this difficult situation? My husband and I have been married one year. He has a 5 yr old daughter from a previous marriage that we have joint custody of. She is generally a great and sweet kid,but has recently started lying a whole lot. My husband thinks she can do no wrong and often parents out of guilt. Last week she even lied to her mom about him, then told us to our faces that she did. She told me last week when I picked her up from school that she likes to lie. So this past weekend, her lies really caused me to be hurt over something so stupid. She wanted to wear purple shoes to church. As I was gathering her stuff to pack so we could take her back to her moms, I asked her where her other shoes were that she wore last week. She remembered those shoes, then decided she wanted to wear those instead. When my husband came in the room, he asked her why she changed shoes. She looked ME right in the eye and said She told me I had to change. I, of course, said that I did not say that and told my husband that I said she could wear whichever shoes she wanted. So he jumps in on her side and asks me again if I said that. By this point I was on the verge of tears because she lied to my face, and his, and now he is questioning me after I have already told him I didnt tell her that. He proceeds to make it an issue and follows us into her room. He kept telling her that she can wear anything, any time that she wants. I just bit my tongue because I didnt figure it was the time or the place. My question is...is it too forward to tell him that I will disengage from her if they are going to team up on me like that? I do plan to talk to him about it this evening when she is at her moms house. I do pretty much everything for her while she is here, and I just feel like if that is how it is going to be then I want to disengage. I am a grown woman and refuse to have my marriage run, manipulated, or affected by a 5-yr-old. Any advice is appreciated. My husband is extremely overprotective so I am sure no matter what I say, it will cause an argument! :-(
Posted on: Mon, 22 Sep 2014 20:00:01 +0000
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