Who makes more money? You or your husband? Wait!!! Does it really matter? Well, it shouldnt but somehow we find ourselves comparing and silently competing. Asking ourselves, who should pay the larger share of the bills. For the woman, she feels its a husbands responsibility to shoulder all the expenses. To the man, this is the 21st century and if women truly want to be liberated and free then they have a duty to share in the expenses at least 50 percent. Abi? Money matter is a very sensitive issue and tend to cause friction in marriage. Anyone who is married even for a few months is sure to have had a row with their spouse about money.(Raise ya hand if you are guilty). It could be as a result of differences in salary, savings, spending habits and even family background. A spouse can see something important enough to spend money on, while the other does not. I once had a lady say to me, my money is mine and my husbands money is ours. How many times have you told yourself this? Secretly or openly? (Me I don talk am before ooo, I no go lie). But last time I checked marriage was and still is a partnership and you are beginning to sound like the 5 year old boy who just says its mine, its mine, its mine!! Remember that your money is hers and she is yours. To avoid or at least reduce the problems of money in the future, I would suggest a more practical thing to do. Agree upon and withdraw a fixed amount every month for each of you and give each other the freedom to spend within that amount for personal expenses. Everyone should have some financial freedom. Whether N5 or N5000 - discretionary income is a must for any partnership. If you want to light fire to it after you get it, it is your share and it is your right to do so. No questions asked, do as you please with the share you have allocated to yourselves. Having your own money helps you feel like you havent given yourself up in order to be part of a relationship. Most importantly - COMMMUNICATE. They say money is the cause of many marriage problems. Well, the TRUTH is - money isn’t the real problem—it’s the lack of communication. Dont be afraid to discuss money and it should not be shared on the basis of who earns the money or who does the most work. You are a team and there is no I in TEAM.
Posted on: Wed, 26 Nov 2014 13:22:58 +0000
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