Who would you save in the fire? Richard In a cab, I asked a young, single, female officemate a theoretical question, “If your house was on fire, and you had time to save only one person, who would it be—your spouse or your child?” As most Filipinas do, she said, “Of course, my child.” So I turned the tables around. I asked, “If we turn it around, and you found out that your husband picked to save your child and not you, would you get hurt?” She said, “Yes I would.” “Because you want to be TOP PRIORITY, right?” I asked. She nodded in agreement. “So how will you ask a husband to PUT YOU FIRST, when you put him SECOND to the child then?” She couldn’t answer for a few minutes. Stunned by the shocking truth that was in front of her all this time. I ended the exchange by saying, “When you marry, do we say to a vow to stay(in good or bad, sickness or health) to our CHILD or to our SPOUSE? Of course everyone knows the answer to that:) Deep down, I believe it maybe because a lot of MEN FAILED to put their wives first in their marriage have hurt women very deeply to SHIFT THEIR HOPE AND LOVE to their innocent children. Although valid and emotionally painful. This creates a destructive cycle: I WONT PUT YOU FIRST(because you have hurt me), STARTING TODAY, MY CHILD IS MOST IMPORTANT. This often backfires because what you give, usually you get. Human flaws don’t need to force us to LOWER THE STANDARDS of our marriage vows to keep our spouse most important:) The best in us can rise above the bitterness:) I often remember older married couples repeatedly saying, “the best thing you can give your children is to show them you(parents) put each other in highest priority.” So, may I ask, “Who would you save in the fire?” Credit : richardpoon.ph/who-would-you-save-in-the-fire/#.U3RsfvnuJ9w Richard Poon
Posted on: Thu, 15 May 2014 07:32:32 +0000
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