Written a fellow Bonusmom. I personally love it: This is is not actually an issue Im having with our family. It is a theme I keep noticing in several of the posts from this page. Let me start by saying that I appreciate this page and the many voices that spring up from it. The help here is amazing, the love is tangible and the support is a necessity when youre part of a blended family. I have noticed many times in the comments section, or even the original post, the need to clarify that stepmothers, or bonusmothers as we prefer it, are not their real mothers and will never be their mommies and we should accept that. I believe that when that mentality and rhetoric is used, we are further solidifying the power struggle created initially by birth mothers versus fathers and bonus mothers. The need to impose that one parent is irreplaceable and consistently define another parent as less is unacceptable. Parents are parents. I looked up the definition of mother. 1 a : a female parent 2 a:A woman who conceives, gives birth to, or raises and nurtures a child. Every woman who is raising children, from whatever biological parentage, for whatever timeframe they are in their care, is by definition that childs mother. I am thankful for the many voices, mainly because the many voices are from fellow mothers. We are here to support each other, I would love to see the separation stop and the emphasis on knowing your place as a mother stop as well.
Posted on: Sun, 28 Sep 2014 19:46:34 +0000
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