Yesterday I was using questions to calm a situation but was not able to make a dent in this persons intense ownership to be angry at their controlling and hateful Mother. I admit I was taken back by how much time and energy this person spends on being upset about the actions of others in their arena. I asked questions because I care about this persons happiness. Based on my results I am now creating powerful questions that would better serve situations where a person is holding onto suffering or anger because of others. For THIS particular situation I would ask these questions: (I did ask some of them and actually got bowled over with shock at how intensely the person wants to own anger and resentment. It caught me off guard. Its feedback for me.) 1. What would it feel like for you as well as others involved if this person who stirs all this anger and resentment for you and them, suddenly changed? 2. Do you know that when we change our communications the people around us change? 3. If you knew that releasing your anger about the situation would begin a chain of healing for the entire family and those involved in the matter would you be willing to take the steps to let that anger go? 4. What is the gift of being angry for you? How does this anger, frustration and resentment serve you in life? 5. What would the lives of you and others look like to not have this anger? What would it look like if a miracle happened and the source of your anger changed? 6. Do you think this anger will go away after this person dies? 7. Does having anger make you feel right? Does it make that other person wrong? 8. What would your life look like and be like, feel like if all the time that has been spent on phone calls and reporting about all the wrong this person does was suddenly free time for you? What would you do with all that time? 9. You have told me this person would have to live another life time of therapy to heal the mess they created in this life time.How do you know that person would never change? 10. How does giving up and not caring serve happiness and powerful living for all members of the family involved in this? 11. Have you ever wondered or gotten curious as to why this person is so much like that creating all this chaos for others? 12. What is in you right now that makes you feel staying this way is safer? This individual is loving, has a big heart and a lot of caring as well as a lot of anger, resentment. Theres a lot of constriction with this person on how love can serve this person in areas of anger at others. A large piece of my experience with this person is overhearing complaints and dwelling on the poor behavior of others within the extended family. This energy is impacting everyone in the family. The root source is the person living in another state who is the Matriarch of the family. ALL members of the immediate and extended family are experience emotional poisoning from that being and no one knows how to turn it around. I see this morning that I could have had her paint a picture of what it COULD be like and future paced. However on second thought there was an intense need to not heal anything. The ownership of anger was deep! I must admit this one stumped me. I spoke with a younger member of the family who is very aware of the damaging affects all of this has had on everyone. This person is willing to read Niurkas book Supreme Influence to help this to heal themselves and the closest members of that persons family. I am confident that once that book gets into this family changes will begin to happen. The personally unrecognized affects of the angry victim of the matriarch has become a part of the family that tears harmony and wholeness apart. There seems to be no understanding of the damage happening within the entire family. No one has taken healthy control or stepped up to heal anything. As of yesterday the situation was festering and now finally, there is hope that the one younger member is stepping into Niurkas gifts to heal this family! That persons spouse is also going to events with Niurka next year. I am excited that the younger ones are stepping up to heal everyone by healing the negative affects of their past. The people being hurt by the situation are all too precious to not take action to lift this to a higher level. My heart is hopeful that healing has already begun! YES!
Posted on: Fri, 05 Dec 2014 14:54:55 +0000
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