You are not obliged to be around people who make you sad, angry, lonely, ... You have one life and you are in charge of your life. Sit on the drivers seat and choose the direction of your life. Ask God for help along the way. But not humans! Only God! Dont let traditions, what others think, what they might think, and what ifs scare you from making bold moves. Trust God. As long as you are aligned with God, fear no one and nothing. If not every day, every month, if not every month, every year look at your life and sort whom you want to be with and whom you want to leave behind. In the journey of life many people are temporary companions, they are there to help or teach you something and leave when the time comes. Some people in life are like cloths of odd sizes they might fit your neighbor very well but it looks horrible on you. Get rid of them! May be someone else needs them. Let them have them. Dont be jealous, remember how ugly you looked with them on! Once you made a choice of sifting through life, move only forward never look back. When God asked Lots family to never look back, God sent us a message. God told us that once you chose my path dont look back. Never allow anyone to be in control of your heart. Always remember that your amount of love should be so well calculated that once that person is gone you would not lose yourself. Might sound cold but I learned it in my early 20s and never ever again anyones present was my whole-being. The result was amazing no one could ever crush me by not being present in my life. Do something that you enjoy alone. Do not do it with anyone else. Keep some activities for yourself, only. Let them remind you of yourself, and that you are an individual and not an extension of anyone. Children are lovely. Give them the best care. Give them the most love. But remember they have two small wings that will grow as they get older and they shall fly. And they will fly away from you. Keep that in mind that your children are a delight but not your identity. No one is more important than you. Let others think and label you as self-centered, selfish,... in reality you are the one who is going to deal with yourself. I have learned from early ages that what makes me happy is to help strangers. You give to strangers your love, affection, monetray help, emotional help, and then you walk away. The beauty is that you dont see them again so there is no expectation on either sides. Always believe in something, I chose God, my God is not different that any one elses God. My religion does not make my God a special God that has reserved heaven for me alone. I believe in a universal God. Never argue with anyone about religion, ideology, politics... it is a waste of time. You can not change anyone, you just waste your time and energy. If someone said something that was clearly against your opinion, just agree to disagree and walk peacefully away and not argue. Always remember your title, your salary, your house/s, you car/s are going to stay on earth while you go under it. So dont be emotionally connected to anyone of them. They are tools for you to do what you are suppose to do, dont let them control you. At the end, none of them come handy in grave, even your children. My mother taught me from early childhood to never leave my heart in any land or with anyone. She said earth is vast and populated with people. So I learned to thrive no matter where I was. I always say, no matter where you plant my seed, South America, Africa, Asia,.... I will still bloom. And I did. I didnt want to preach. I follow every one of those advices diligently and have done so for years. To be hoest I never cared what people said. I was so stubborn that when I felt dying my hair blue will look good on me then I would go deaf on both compliments as well as critisms. We all learn a lot from life. As we grow older we become smarter, calmer, and more grounded. We become like older trees. Not every wind can shake us. And I love this about aging. I have to say I do not feel 40, but I am happy with the number. I lived a full life, full of activities I wanted to do, full of failures, wrong decisions, fantastic choices, smart moves and I embrace them all with open heart and love even the saddest moments of my life. I hope you do much better that I did. Enjoy your life but be careful not to sell your soul to devil!
Posted on: Fri, 05 Sep 2014 06:45:44 +0000
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