You know yesterday I learned quite a bit about family. I learned that family isnt what you think it is , it seems to just be a word. I come from a really big family and yesterday I realized just how small it really is because of the lack of participants. My Grandmother died yesterday. And it was heart breaking to see the state my Grandfather was in after losing his wife of 72 years. But what hurt more was the was the family (and I use that term loosely) acted. Now of course there were some more devastated by her passing , as they were closer to her and thats understandable. But with the exception of a few I felt like a stranger in a crowd. Some chose to totally ignore the reason for our being there ; which of course was to be there for our Papa, he had the greatest loss yesterday. Some chose to act childish and not even acknowledge the existence of others just a few feet away from them even though their pain and loss was just as great as theirs. Others held a grudge for something that was not in anyones control but they are still placing blame in all the wrong places. What was most shocking to me was the way that nothing seemed to be a family matter it was more like thank you for coming, we will let you know of the arrangements Before the day was over there was even talks between some of what things in the house they wanted, she hadnt even been gone a day. There should have been more hugs and shared memories yesterday than cold shoulders , silent strangers and untrusting looks. But I guess that just goes to show how actually dysfunctional my family really is. For the ones that acted like family , I Love Yall very much even though we dont see each other , we are still family. For the ones that chose to hold themselves above and apart because of feelings of being wronged or jealousy; dont you think its time to put childish actions and feelings away and realize you cannot be a Family until you act like a family. Yes arguments and disagreements will happen thats life but move beyond it and realize what your shutting out. Im done for awhile, I dont think I can handle much more this week, but I am preparing myself for what I know will come. And for those of you that read this and get offended, maybe you should ask yourself WHY this makes you mad before you comment, if you even comment at all.....
Posted on: Thu, 20 Nov 2014 17:00:06 +0000
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