#flipthescript -- An honest and important confession into how adoption can operate for an individual. Some of us go through phases of this; some of us go through lifetimes of this. I personally remember this sense of isolation and disconnection, this stance in relation to others, being my every day for many years, ebbing and flowing. I might inch forward but would then be flung back by deaths, friend betrayals, unreciprocated love, etc. -- often in ways that seemed out of proportion even to me. The feeling was like doors slamming in my brain, keys turning to lock back locks, the lights going out. Then, somehow, finding out the names of my birthparents and making contact with birthfamily lifted the veil for me. It wasnt that I needed the relationships (though I welcome them). It was more this sense of the pieces finally snapping together to make me a whole person, a person tethered to the tree of the world in some sense, rather than floating in deep, dark space. Its quite a thing. When I hear the doors starting to slam shut in my brain now I tell them to knock it off. And they do. Do you know any adopted people? Maybe they struggle with this also. Maybe your assumptions about why they behave the way they do are way off base ...
Posted on: Sun, 21 Dec 2014 18:10:43 +0000
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