oh a lesson i learned this morning. I just talked to Andrew about how lately i have really been feeling the heaviness of words and how they feel when they flow from the mouth, and how words and thoughts really do create things. so i am pondering this. and Michael comes up to me and is crying. the seeds he planted did not grow. he was looking for the pot we had planted his seeds in, that he planted. well, as sometimes happen, the seeds didnt grow. he got so disappointed. he was crying almost uncontrollably. ( now, dont go judging my son everybody has their moments. so what. we are not robots. ) so anyways, after he calmed down a bit, we talked abut why he was really upset. he was upset because the seeds than HE planted did not grow. and then he thought that maybe WE did something to his plants. all these thoughts in his 7 year old mind. well now. once i figured out what the issue was, i was able to talk with him, and teach him how sometimes the seeds we plant dont grow. sometimes the soil isnt right, sometimes the seeds get plucked out by birds. Michael said he saw little green leaves growing, but we did not. maybe a bird came along and plucked out that yummy morsel of a plant. who knows . bottom line though. we HAVE to say what can I do better next time for the outcome I want ? can i pay closer attention, can i water more, can i plant more seeds and try again ? and the answer is YES!!! . as long as there is breath in you , my son, as long as you have an able body. you can ALWAYS DO SOMETHING to make a better outcome next time. Here is what happened , I didnt realize how much he was afraid of failure, how much he was afraid of having something NOT go COMPLETELY right, and right now , I am so thankful that i recognized that in my son, my beautiful go getter son, that he had that fear. and NOW i am the privileged one to TEACH him how to put action into situations and change them . and always be better. I am now going to get ready to go and run to Lowes really quick. We need to buy fresh longer pots ( that may have been the problem, the planter was too small..thats another thought !! anyways...) and some new seeds and plant them today. why ? Because THAT is how you raise a winner , a child that is a go getter, and does cool changes in the world. Those are the lessons i have had to learn in life.he really didnt want to hear these words of wisdom. He was very closed ...shaking his head no and not looking at me . I told him honey, i have already played the game !! I know the tricks and the short cuts, and I am YOUR teacher ! I want to be your teacher ! Do you believe I am your teacher ? I am more than your caregiver, I am your teacher. and I want to teach you all the tricks and short cuts so you can WIN at this game of life.! so repeat after me Michael, How can I get better and better in this situation ? Michael said how can i get worser and worser ? no Michael, it is How can I get better and better in this situation ? how can I get worse and worse says michael. hmm. Michael, do you believe I am your teacher? I am . I have all the best stuff to teach you, but if you continue to say the opposite, you will miss out on the tricks and shortcuts. Do you understand ? say yes. yes, says Michael, Ok, so how can I How can I get better and better in this situation ? get better and better in this situation He still wasnt on board with going to Lowes at that moment. He went to his room and laid on his bed for a few minutes. that is ok ! I came out here to type, he brought me a coconut candy i brought home from florida, and he took a piece and he liked it. i didnt know he liked coconut like that. See..we get better and better every day. Thanks for reading this. I just had to share with the world today so i wouldnt forget this experience. good stuff.
Posted on: Wed, 30 Jul 2014 15:09:28 +0000
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