why I stayed I was 22 with a little girl who was 1.5. I met a smooth talked who said we could move in with him. I had been trying to find a place to live but didnt make enough money after babysitting, gas and parking in downtown Dallas, diapers and formula. He was 22 years older than me, convinced me he loved me, wooed me with gifts, until I finally said yes and moved in with him. He didnt work, hung out at bars, drank all day and sometimes didnt come home at night. The first time he hit me was right between my eyes because he said I had liked at another man, which I hadnt. I had two swollen black eyes plus broke my nose. I had to go to work. Tried covering up bruises but couldnt. My boss, a lawyer, called me in his office and asked what happened. He advised me to leave him. I didnt because he had already started grooming me by telling me no one else would want me , I was lucky to have him, I was ugly, etc. Completely destroyed my self confidence. He continued to abuse me both physically as mentally for 6 years. The night I left he was knocking my head against bathtub, commode and on tile floor. Somehow I was able to kick him in the groin, grabbed my daughter and literally jumped through the bedroom window, crying, scared, running until I made it to a friends house where I was safe. He lived in house financed in my name by FHA low income program. I had to get police but once they saw me they removed him from my house. He called, showed up at my job begging me to take him back, I wouldnt. A good friend of mine and family lived with my mom to help exercise my brother who was a quadriplegic in exchange for free rent. He knew what I had been through, had talked to him about it, was glad to be out. He asked me on a date. We went out a lot, very sweet, lived my daughter so after 3 months we got married and moved into his house. Second week we were married he had a temper tantrum over something insignificant but scared me, my daughter and his daughter. He first hit me about a month after we were married. He was very jealous. You never knew what would set him off. He groomed me like previous guy said no one would want me, lucky to have him, etc. I doent another 6 years being hit, slapped knife thrown at me, pulled by my hair around house until finally I had enough. I started planning on how I could leave. The last straw was when he got in car and chased me and my daughter, we were on foot, trying to run over us, after he had already beaten Mr. Thankfully he got tired of it and went home my daughter and myself were walking down highway and a man picked us up took to my moms. Had to get police, went with me to get my clothes and furniture, moved in with mom. So why did I stay for so long in both relationships, because they had me convinced I wasnt with anything, I was ugly, was lucky to be with them, mental abuse that you hear over and over until you believe it, isolate you from friends and family, any outside support you had. Its hard for people whove never been in an abusive relationship to understand the conditioning, mental torture, physical abuse. Once I got away and back on my feet I made a promise to myself and my daughter that I would mot tolerate abuse again and I didnt. With Gods help, grace and mercy, He guided me to where I needed to be independent, self confident, self sufficient. If anyone reads this and is in abusive relationship Im here to listen. #WhyIStayed: Meredith Vieira reveals past abusive relationship Meredith Vieira has opened up about being involved in an abusive relationship when she was younger, explaining that “it’s not so easy to... TODAY.COM|BY EUN KYUNG KIM LikeLike · · Share 1 share Susie Boofer Jones LikeLike · · Share
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