1- ways to win ur husbands love 1-Listen actively. When your husband expresses an opinion or a thought, pay attention. This shows you respect him and his views and nothing pleases a man more. 2-Dress pleasantly/attractively. Mostly women dress properly when going outside and at home they wear worst clothes..U should dress urself so that ur husband will feel good when he looks at u... 3-Smell good. 4-Say thank you with a smile. When your husband does an odd job around the house, thank him like you really mean it. He will know that his help is not taken for granted and he will be happy to do more. 5-Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug. 6-Prepare his favorite meal. After he returns home from work on an ordinary day, surprise your husband with his favorite dinner. He will not only be glad to have the food he likes best, but will appreciate the time and effort you put in preparing it. 7-Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break 8-Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”… because unlike women, men’s thoughts are as random as the results of a google search. :) 9-Give your husband a nice massage, after a particularly exhausting day at work. 10- Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.Treat his sibblings as ur sibblings and his father as ur father and u would see then how much he will respect u 11-Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. 12-Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it. 13-Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence) etc. This will build his self- esteem. 14-Tell him he’s the best husband ever. 15-Call his relatives for a lunch or dinner at your home. 16-Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more. 17-When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested. 18Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complaint about. 19-Help him to find and build her inner strengths and skills. 20-Encourage him to do good deeds. 21-Share islamic knowledge with each other.Try to watch islamic channels together so that u both can learn. 22- If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, inshaAllah. 23-Thank him sincerely for providing you with everything. 24- If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something. 25-When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him. 26-Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration. 27-Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home. 28-If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really. 29-Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings. 30-Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it. 31-Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him. 32-Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at. 33-Learn to make his favorite dish. 34-Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with ur friends or family unnecessarily. 35-Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a housewife, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband. 36-Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. NOT give command or instruction like servant.Because Allah says in quan “They are garment to each other” 37-Tell your husband you love him many many times. 38- Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisps. 39- Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. 40-The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.Try to make his favorite food 41-Always let him know that you appreciate him working.It makes it easier for him to go to work. 42-Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities can be gifts. 43-Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extreeemely geeky things like Queries,Tables and other boring things.) 44-Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies. 45-Take care of your skin, esp. facial. Face is center of attraction. 46- Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. Of course goes both ways. 47-When you are sitting together, quietly slip your hand into his. Your husband will love the easy expression of intimacy between you two. 48- If you are not satisfied intimatly, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait till matters become worse. 49-Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time 50-Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion. 51-Learn to compromise 52-Respect his rights 53-You have to know about the financial conditions of your husband so that you do not demand a thing that is too hard for him to buy.Because if wife demands a very expensive thing which husband couldnt buy then he becomes mentally tensed and sometimes he does not tell her wife about that. 54-Ups and Downs are a part of time.You have to keep your behaviour with your husband same in both times.Else he will be broken.If any calamity strikes him make him sure that you are with him and will be always 55-Share your happiness and sadness with him. 56-Accept him as is, he is a package deal. 57-Send your husband a text message out of the blue with a message of love. 58-Send him an email without a reason. 59-Ask him to buy gifts to his parents and siblings. 60-Write love notes or poems and place them in the book hes been reading. 61-Teach your children to respect and honor their father. 62-Yes for flattery. No for arguing. 63-Call your husband with the best names, cute nicknames, and names he loves to hear. 64-A pleasant surprise. 65- Preserve and guard the tongue. 66-Expect, accept, and overlook his shortcomings. 67-Expect and respect her jealously. 68-Put food in your husbands mouth. 69-Leave the past for Allah, dont dwell on, dig into, or bring it up. 70-Dont ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big. 71-Avoid being harsh-hearted. 72-Respect and show that you appreciate his thinking. 73-Respect and understand her when he might not be in mood for intimacy. 74-Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home. 75-Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself. 76-Have a good intention for him. 77-Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can. 78-Let him have the TV remote. Granted, that you wish your husband spent more time with you, than watching the sports channel/ NEWS, but it will make him happy. 79-Find a quiet moment with your husband to whisper “ I love you” in his ears. If you have already said it, say it again. You can never say these three words too often and you can be sure, that every time it will make your husband glad, he married you.happy. 79-Find a quiet moment with your husband to whisper “ I love you” in his ears. If you have already said it, say it again. You can never say these three words too often and you can be sure, that every time it will make your husband glad, he married you. 80--Hold his gaze. When you are speaking to your husband or listening to him, make sure that you keep eye contact. This will assure him of your attention and your respect, which is empowering to any man. 81-Take care of his money and properties. A woman came to ask the Prophet (peace be upon him) about some matter, and when he had dealt with it, he asked her, Do you have a husband? She said, Yes. He asked her, How are you with him? She said, I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me. He said, Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell. (Ahmad, al-Nisai Al-Targhib wal- Tarhib, 3/52) The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise. [Ibn Majah, Book 1 Hadith 595] 2- ways to win your Wife’s love ●In The Name of Allaah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful● In todays life of hustle and bustle, the family unit is becoming fragile by the day. Divorces are on the rise, and Muslims can no longer claim, as justifiably as before, that divorce is rare among Muslims or even much less than incidents of divorce among non-Muslims. ways to keep up your spouses love. lets take on the men first, heres how you can keep up your wifes love: 1. Make her feel secure, dont threaten her with divorce. 2. Give sincere Salaams. 3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel. 4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere. 5. Be generous with her. 6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart. 7. Avoid anger,. 8. Look good and smell great for your wife. 9. Dont be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken. 10. Be a good listener. 11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing. 12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear. 13. A pleasant surprise. 14. Preserve and guard the tongue. 15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings. 16. Give sincere compliments. 17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family. 18. Speak of the topic of her interest. 19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is. 20. Give each other gifts. 21. Get rid of routine, surprise her. 22. Have a good opinion of each other. 23. Have good manners, overlook small things, dont nitpick. 24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses. 25. Expect and respect her jealously. 26. Be humble. 27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers. 28. Help at home, with housework. 29. Help her love your relatives, but dont try to force her. 30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you. 31. Remember your wife in Dua. 32. Leave the past for Allah, dont dwell on, dig into, or bring it up. 33. Dont act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family. 34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not your wife. 35. Put food in your wifes mouth. 36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect. 37. Show her your smile. 38. Dont ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big. 39. Avoid being harsh-hearted. 40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking. 41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills. 42. Respect and understand her when she might not be in mood for intimacy, 43. Help her take care of the children. 44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments. 45. Sit down and eat meals together. 46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice. 47. Dont leave home in anger. 48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home. 49. Encourage each other in worship. 50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you. 51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times. 52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, dont jump on her like a bull. 53. Keep disputes between the two of you, dont take it outside. 54. Show care for her health and well-being. 55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself. 56. Share your happiness and sadness with her. 57. Have mercy for her weaknesses. 58. Be a firm support for her to lean on. 59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal. 60. Have a good intention for her. 61. Cook a dish for her. 62. Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can. 63. Women love flowers. Make a trail of them on the floor leading to the gift you made for her. 64. Give her a nice massage when she least expects it. 65. Send your wife a text message out of the blue with a message of love. 66. Send your wife an email without a reason. 67. Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location, preferably without kids. 68. Do something for your wifes family, whether it is a gift, or a chat with her teen brother who needs mentoring, or whatever. It will get you lots of brownie points. 69. Do not keep reminding and demanding your rights all the time. 70. Shop groceries for her and call her from the store and ask her what she needs for the home, for herself or for her to give to people as gifts. 71. Ask her if she would like to invite her female friends over for ladies only get together and arrange for the dinner. 72. Ask her to send gifts to her parents and siblings. 73. Help her parents pay off debt. Send her poor relatives some money. 74. Write love notes or poems and place them in the book shes been reading. 75. If she tells you something she had just learned from the Quran or Hadith, do not dismiss her or ridicule her effort, instead listen to her and take her word. 76. Plant her a kitchen garden with all kind of herbs she needs for cooking. 78. Update her PC or laptop with a new one or get her a new mobile phone. 79. Learn to do a special massage technique and surprise her with your new expertise. 80. Teach your children to respect and honor their mother. 81. Be humorous with her when she makes a mistake in the kitchen (like when she put too much salt or burnt her baking). ..and treat them (i.e. your wives) kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it. [Quran - 4: 19] Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.. [Tirmidhi, 3895]
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