17 INSIGHTS 17 YEARS 1. BE KIND. My brother gave me this advice when he was 18. I have found it still to be the principle that I strive towards, especially when I’m struggling to do so. 2. REAL LOVE IS VOLITIONAL. A family friend wrote this advice on our wedding day. I didn’t really understand it for many years. It means that love is a choice. I choose to be loving or not. It’s a choice. 3. LOVE IS THE ANSWER. The Beatles had it right. When I chunk up to love then everything dissolves. 4. MARRIAGE IS LIKE THE TIDE. Sometimes it’s up and sometimes it’s down. I can always count on it to seek equilibrium. I trust this. 5. THE LITTLE THINGS MATTER. Making a cup of tea, sending a text, fluffing a pillow. These little things go a long way in fulfilling deep love. 6. THE LITTLE THINGS DON’T MATTER. Toothpaste lids, toilet seats and dirty dishes are meaningless. They only bother me when I need an excuse to mask a more vulnerable emotion. 7. HONESTY. Period. 8. THE MARRIAGE NEEDS FOCUS OUTSIDE OF THE FAMILY. Our kids will live with us for about 20 years. My marriage to you will be around a lot longer. I remember to pay attention to the relationship apart from the children. 9. STRENGTH IS FLEXIBILITY. The stronger partner isn’t the one who yells the loudest. Conversely, it’s the one who adapts more effortlessly. (Hint: that’s you) 10. POLARITY IS KEY. Energy can only flow between two poles. Polarity and passion requires one partner to be Yin and one partner to be Yang. I need to remember this. 11. PERCEPTION IS PROJECTION. I teach this. I live it. I breathe it. A perceived flaw in you is a direct insight into an unacknowledged part of myself. When I apply the insight to myself then the problem ceases to exist. 12. STRUGGLE MAKES YOU A STRONGER UNIT. When I see struggle as a normal part of change and evolution then challenges are not problems, they are opportunities to invent a better and more improved version. 13. MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. Not better. Not worse. Not good. Not bad. Just different. I need to celebrate the differences as an important part of the fun. Being married to myself would be boring. 14. TOUCH. This is a basic human need. Do it as often as possible. Even a “high 5” counts. 15. HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOUR. Laughter really is the best medicine. The greatest service you do in a tough situation is release the tension through humour. This is a real gift. Humour interrupts my pattern. 16. EMOTIONS ARE ENERGY IN MOTION. Keep this energy moving lest it build up, get stagnant or toxic. I can always be better at expressing my emotions. Mastery is being able to do it without hurting anyone. 17. OPEN YOUR HEART. Marianne Williamson once said that “everything is either an act of love or a cry for help”. My heart is more powerful than I can imagine.
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