5 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU SAY I DO.. #Marriage can be a beautiful thing, but are you prepared for the #ups and #downs that marriage offers? Both parties must be willing to #compromise. Your relationship should be an #open book, no #secrets, #no hidden agendas. Everything’s out in the open. Before you can truly determine if you are ready for marriage, take a step back and answer these questions first: #Is GOD the center of your relationship? #God must be the center of your relationship, if you want it to work. The threefold cord consist of: #You, your #mate, and #God. He strengthens all bonds. #Pray about your relationship. Give everything over to #God. Let #God know that you are asking #His approval. #Are you equally yoked? A lot of times couples go into marriages with these types of challenges and then are surprised when the marriage doesn’t work. #Are you emotionally available for a relationship? #Have you moved on from your past divorce or most recent #break up? Be careful not to bring your #past relationship problems into your #current relationship. Or maybe in your current relationship while dating, you’ve had to face some challenges. Ask yourself, “are they behind you?” Have you truly forgiven your #mate’s past #actions? If the answer is no, Maybe it’s best that you do not rush into marriage. #Are you willing to make the compromises to be a “we” instead of a “me? “ Marriage is all about #compromising. For two people to work together as a #team, each member must #give and #take once in a while. But many of us have no idea how to compromise. I’m not saying you should compromise when it comes to your #beliefs or #morals. But then again, If you’re equally yoked, you won’t have to. #Have you identified and communicated your #needs and #expectations? Don’t assume that your mate should know how you #feel, what you #need, or what you #want. Starting a family right away may be #1 on your list, but is it even on his list?. In your mind, you’ve already decided that you’re going to take the first couple of years off work to be a stay at home mom, but does he know this? #Couples that communicate #openly and #effectively tend to have #stronger, more #successful marriages. And some conversations about things like #kids, #money and #religion are important to have before you say “I do”. #What is your main #reason for wanting to get married? Often times we get married with good intentions, but are they really good reasons to get married? Wanting the #wedding of your dreams is fine, but what happens when the #honeymoon is over? Are you more #focused on the #wedding or the #marriage? Make sure you’re not getting married, just to be able to say you’re married. The #goal is not just to be married, but to be #happily married. Food for thought..
Posted on: Thu, 24 Apr 2014 06:11:34 +0000