African people: When a man is thinking, the woman is feeling. And when a man is feeling, the woman is thinking. A man talks to a women as if she is a man, and the women talks to the man as if he is a woman. We are on two different energy cycles so we have to constantly translate what we are saying. It is important to understand that when one is talking feeling, the other is in a thinking state. So a man who is thinking of a solution to a womans feelings is not with her at that time. So he has to stop and get with her feelings just to witness her feelings and say I know how you are feeling, I have understanding or I dont understand, but I trying to and just witness her feelings ups and downs. The woman should do the same, and not try to fix him and repair him. Just trust that he has enough intelligence to solve his problems. If he wants some help or want you to give him solutions, he will ask for it or if he doesnt ask for any advice, dont give it. You are on an emotional phase and he is on a intellectual phase, and when he is trying to solve his problems he might want to be alone or pull away from you. It doesnt mean he doesnt like you, it just means he has to be by himself to figure out whats going on. When you are going through your ups and downs, and his or lows, you dont have any problems, nothing needs to be repaired or any solutions. All you need is just someone to witness your ups and downs, just like he needs someone to witness him solving his problems. So we have to learn to translate things, present a solution, or say I need to talk to you and then wait. Let interpretation happen, process and then give feedback( if you want to). Cant force the partner to go outside there cycle. We meet each other and balance each other while we are in our cycles. Dr. Africa
Posted on: Sat, 23 Nov 2013 05:31:46 +0000
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