BUT IS IT TRUE?????????????????????????????????????? Ive known people who ruined happy unions because they couldnt stop fantasizing about who they could (supposedly) be with if not for said relationship...and then it went beyond fanta- sizing. Ive known people who exit relationships early because what if someone better comes along? What if they wont be happy with this person in ten years? what if, what if, what if... lets examine this. The grass is always greener...the grass is always greener. I know married couples who seemed completely happy before the marriage who now give pause to each others faults, pining away for someone better. Someone new, someone, well, greener. Likewise, though, I have several single friends who routinely question if they will find the one, all the while having a feast critiquing each date they have. We huff and puff waiting for a commitment, then when we have it, we still complain (please note these are generalizations, and I KNOW not everyone is like this). What is this com- plaining about? Deep down, are we that afraid of getting hurt that we push people away until we are left alone? I see people in established relationships doing this time and again. Its as if they feel like they dont deserve unconditional love (I warned you - amateur psychologist at play) and nitpick and complain until they ruin what they have. Leaving them...alone, which is what they initially feared. On an even deeper level, are some of us afraid of loss and therefore push people away? I know several people who have experienced a loved one dying early in their life, and they never completely recovered. Its as if the sense of abandonment never truly goes away. On a much simpler level, maybe we are just wired to never be content. Perhaps we are meant to constantly question. Maybe, in a larger sense, we are all just cavemen trying to plant our seed everywhere. Could this support the argument that monogamy is dead? I want to hear your opinions, people! However, on the other hand, sometimes the grass IS greener. Sometimes we emotionally exit relationships in baby steps, and lamenting/complaining helps ease us into it. Little by little we come to terms with a slowly dying relationship, and by the time we are complained out, were okay with the demise. I have a friend who wont let on that theres any- thing wrong with their relationships until practically the tail end, when theyre ready. All of a sudden they will spill everything that was ever wrong with the coupling, but only because theyre ready. PEACE................................
Posted on: Tue, 16 Dec 2014 17:34:09 +0000