Because I caught her out in lies and refused to go along with her bullshit - Control by Triangulation: If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbors, any third party – to do her bidding. She uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate her target. She controls these unaware instruments exactly as she plans to control her ultimate victim. She employs the same mechanisms and devices, and she always dumps her props unceremoniously when the job is done. Another form of control by triangulation is to engineer situations in which abuse is inflicted upon another person. Such carefully crafted scenarios of embarrassment and humiliation provoke social sanctions (condemnation, opprobrium, social exclusion and shame) against the victim. In this instance, society becomes the instrument of the abuser. By clever seduction, through words and posturing, she entices her pawns to do her dirty work for her. Unaware... [and] being persuaded by [the narcissists] rendition of truth, they take up her cause and her right and align themselves against the one she controls. The malignant narcissist creates perpetual triangles around the one she desires to control. She sees through these eyes- eyes with no empathy - that perpetuate constant, residual torment, for her [victim]. Claiming that she is being tormented by her victim, she creates rescuers who then torment her victim, thinking they are protecting her from the bully. Doing this through her friendships, family members, associates and whoever she can entice, she remotely views her operation like a director of a movie. In other words, she will frame a picture and put her secondary supply in that frame - the borders always being the shape of a triangle and the picture within being a distorted truth she propagates. Usually, the claims she makes of her victim are the truth [about herself] and while hiding behind her victim, she will spin, doctor, and gaslight until she gets her desired result. Defamation of character and destroying the credibility of [her victim] is her goal. She convinces her pawns that her victim is the persecutor and she is the victim. The naked eye cannot see this game of illusions and that is why she [is able to engage] others in her web. They do for her what she orchestrates in secret.
Posted on: Mon, 01 Dec 2014 10:17:29 +0000
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