FIND A BALANCE… It’s no longer surprising that some form of disenchantment is steadily creeping into marriages-because of the inability of couples to spend sufficient time with each other. A lady once described her situation as being ‘marriedly single’ because of her husband’s excessive absence in their home. And whenever she complains, his usual excuse is that he is working hard to give her and the children a good life. It is commendable for a man to be driven (for his family’s welfare) but the fact remains that ‘all that money and little or no time for family’ may backfire when the chips are down-especially when what should make a marriage strong ends up disintegrating it. Work all the hard you can but make a conscious effort to do a balancing act between your economic activities and time for your loved ones. For example, it won’t be bad to close early from work (sometimes)-so as to get home before the kids go to bed. Most of your weekends should be for ‘family’ too. Some women seem to have forgotten that their role in the family is first and foremost that of a nurturer and a builder. Once a woman has the economic grip of things in a marriage-it is difficult for her to look back. Domestic assistants and ‘lesson teachers’ automatically take over her responsibilities. Such homes have everything that money can buy except the very thing that makes family life tick...quality time with each other. Yet, one can have all that and a sound family life-if a balance is maintained. Whenever we go too far out of balance, we feel a need for whatever is missing and those who can’t manage the situation may succumb to seeking whatever it is they miss-elsewhere. There are marriages where couples spend a lot of time together, yet the happiness is never there, it goes to show that being glued to each other doesn’t really make a happy marriage. As a matter of fact, I encourage anyone going into marriage to learn to keep his/her own company to some extent because your spouse shouldn’t and won’t always be with you. At such times, you get busy with your own life and whenever you are together-you make it a quality one. All that ‘material success and a disintegrated family’ will be VERY depressing. “All relationships have one law: Never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you are there’’ Unknown
Posted on: Sat, 26 Oct 2013 16:18:38 +0000
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