GOOD BEHAVIOR! Good behavior or safe conduct whatever one desires to term this, is always the index of good breeding or manners that reveal the gentleman or lady. By ones conduct can the keen observer know that this man is properly trained or brought up and that this other is rough, crude and ill-bred... Why?... That is easily answered. The rough character or roughneck (a popular term applied to the improperly trained) easily betrays himself in more ways than one. In the street, in public eating places, inside buildings or in social network whatever place he finds himself his actions, his manners and his mode of speaking indicate that he does not observe good behavior or safe conduct. Wether he is indifferent to the rules of etiquette or has not been given proper instructions can not be ascertained. But one thing is sure: he lacks the good breeding of the gentlemen. Whereas, the getleman (so called because he is gentle) can be discerned from a group of different individuals with the greatest of ease... How?... Again the answer can be given offhand. The gentleman (one who observes safe conduct or proper behavior), reveals the traits of the well-behaved man. In the street, in public eating places or in any place he finds himself, he always observes the rules of etiquette as practiced by the gentry of those who believe that good behavior always wins friends and admiration. It is an accepted theory that no one would like to mingle with roughnecks or go with them in public places for the observant eye would easily conclude: HE WHO GOES WITH WOLVES LEARNS TO HOWL. Good behavior or safe conduct can be acquired. The gentleman is not born a gentleman: The gentleman or lady can be trained to be such. For one thing good behavior is not merely acting the right way; or doing the proper things at the right time. A good deal depends on many factors: a well-modulated voice, a voice that is not pitched too high (falsetto) or too low to be heard, a voice that is resonant, clear and strikes a pleasant note in the listener. When we hear a pleasant voice, or a voice close to the musical pitch, arent we drawn to the speaker at once? Does not the spirit of goodwill respond to the call? The pleasant, modulated voice is the key to friendship. But the rough, almost guttural voice creates distrust if not unpleasantness and a feeling of unfriendliness is the resultant force. The voice may be unnaturally loud and too low to be heard. It may be irregular that it gives a negative personality, hence a sign of bad behavior or unright conduct. The gentleman always speaks clearly, and in a voice that is neither too high-pitched or too low. The gentleman by faithful observance of the rules of good behavior or safe conduct has acquired the voice of the well-breed. Another factor of good behavior or proper conduct is the way one smiles. A smile must be natural and spontaneous to arouse response. The gentleman is not cross, grouchy or ill-tempered. He is well-mannered and of such disposition that he smiles to show his sweet disposition. For a smile COST NOTHING... IT ENRICHES... CREATES HAPPINESS... FOSTERS GOODWILL AND IS THE COUNTERSIGN OF FRIENDS... A third factor is the sincere spirit, the willingness to lend a hand, a ready response of appreciation when it is needed. Sincerity can not be feigned or simulated. It can not be acted for it springs from the heart, a spontaneous growth without effort. It is natural. A man may not have acted accordingly to the rules of etiquette; he may have strayed off a bit from the strict observance of safe conduct - but if he had spoken pleasantly in the modulated, soft voice; if he had smiled the smile of the angels, a smile that salves the string away; if he had shown that sincerity or spontaneity the natural way, - then he is better off than the trained-strict-to-the-rules man who had none of the qualities enumerated above. GOOD LUCK GOOD MANNERED GUYS!
Posted on: Tue, 04 Nov 2014 21:45:23 +0000
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