How to Date a Strong Black Woman ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Strong Black Women seem to find it extremely challenging to find a worthy mate, companion, or life partner. Even when they do meet a suitable person of interest many times because of his emotional or past challenges, we (the men) take ourselves out of the game. Here are some tips- 1. Never portray yourself larger than what you really are: The day of showing our representative must die! Show her from the door who you really are, and be honest about your intentions no matter what they my be. A Strong Black Woman (S.B.W.) will uncover it in a short amount of time anyway so be yourself. Have a purpose behind dating her! Let her know you have standards also... 2. Follow through: Make sure everything you say and do in the presence or in the absence of a S.B.W. all looks and sounds the same. Consistency is our great strength when dealing with a S.B.W. everything we do, everything we say, everything we are, must all a line and point to the same place. You know they say news travels fast, so if you do something in public that gets back to her, it needs to be constant with the man she already knows you to be. The moment we have to explain some shit (sorry for cursing), her guard goes up! 3. Express emotions: Ive learned the hard way S.B.W. will love you to death but they may not spare your feelings very much. We can take this as a negative or a positive? We can either say, she kicking my ass or she is trying to get us to a place of clarity. In either case we dont feel good emotionally. The key is learning to express it clearly, staying on topic (without bringing up the past and throwing things in her face you never talked about), but most of all, understanding what she is saying from a position of love. This is a hard thing to swallow but if that S.B.W. loves you every intention comes from the heart which is a place of love its not to hurt you! Initially it may hurt but knowing shes not trying to hurt you is the key to trust someone with your emotions. 4. Money: Just be honest! Life has its ups and downs so the money you have today may be gone tomorrow. Impress her with you patience, character, and your ability to provide whatever is needed in any situation. The day of flossing is over, if you have to floss to get... leave that sh$% alone. We should always show we are workers, providers, and we will never leave them to do it alone! Be confident in what you make and your ability to grow, dont feel the need to sell her on a fantasy of one day we will. S.B.W. will watch you grow and be a man of your word one day at a time. 5. Freedom S.B.W. need their freedom at times and we can be very needy at times which and cause friction. Ive learned theres no love lost by falling back and giving her space, with her heart if it was meant for you it will be yours no matter where she is. This is where we must control our egos and imaginations because they both will get the best of us if we let them. Trust is the key but if we have trust issues we have to communicate them to resolve them. We cannot suppress them and think theyll be resolved. Giving her freedom allows her to refocus and be refreshed... shes not breaking up with you, creeping on you, ignoring you, or all of the other craziness our mind tells us. Breathe keep your mind occupied and remember whats for you will always be for you. Trying to control her will push her away even more.
Posted on: Thu, 17 Oct 2013 06:36:15 +0000
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