How to deal with jealousy #1 Remember They’re With YOU The difference between you and that person you’re jealous of? You get to be with your partner and the other person won’t! Remember that you have the advantage and enjoy your relationship instead of letting your day get spoiled. #2 Make Feelings Known If you’re feeling a little jealous, let your partner know. If you feel like a certain coworker or friend is getting way too close for comfort, talk it out with your partner in a calm way. Chances are they had no idea that person was even bothering you. #3 Don’t Get Mad Jealousy and anger often go hand in hand. Unfortunately, a bad temper can really turn up the heat on jealous feelings and insecurity. It will cloud your mind and cause you to say or do things that you regret if you’re not careful. #4 Channel it Into Something Positive Jealousy is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s okay to care so much for someone that you want them to yourself. Just remember to channel it into something positive like a reminder that you are lucky to be with them instead of a threat. #5 Don’t Get Possessive One of our natural instincts is to get possessive of the things (or in this case, people) that we love. This may work with an object but your partner is a living, breathing person with feelings of their own. They deserve your love and respect but being possessive and demanding of them is rude and painful. #6 Understand How it Affects Others Any time a strong emotion is involved, it usually changes the way we behave. You may become more cynical or find yourself saying things you don’t mean. If you’ve noticed that you keep having a negative effect on other people (especially the ones who may be close to your partner) understand that your problem may need some fixing. #7 Be Confident One of the biggest causes of jealousy is fear that you’re not good enough. Don’t let your self-esteem change the way you approach your relationship. If you’re feeling insecure about your appearance then get active about taking better care of yourself and doing what you can to be the best you. However if it’s something deeper, this is an issue you may need to take more time to work through. #8 Don’t Make Comparisons You would never compare your partner to someone else in a negative light so why do it to yourself? There will always be someone better looking, stronger, smarter, faster, younger, richer or more talented than you but that does not discredit anything you have to offer the world. Our differences are what make us special and your partner is with you because they know just how special you really are. #9 Don’t Make Demands Sometimes this feeling can get the best of us and we say things that will only make it worse. It’s important to be open and honest with your partner but remember to do so in love and with patience. If your partner has been spending time with someone you’re not comfortable with, don’t demand that they end communication with the person. Work out respectful ways that will ease your fears and keep everyone happy. #10 Understand the Consequences There are consequences to jealousy in a relationship. Often times, it results in a lack of trust. Jealousy can damage a relationship beyond repair if you are not careful so make sure you’re not risking your relationship just because of your own doubts.
Posted on: Thu, 25 Dec 2014 19:37:16 +0000