I been fighting Co-Dependency For 24 yrs or better,and I only found out in early 1996. Im getting better with time, but I. Am learning to care with limits. What is Co-Dependency? Codependents are caring people, and there is nothing wrong with nurturing; we are meant to be interdependent. Just a little self-examination, and redirection, may have you on a more fulfilling path. You could be said to be largely over your Codependency when you recognize just how good you are! Although its tricky, because some people have inflated self-esteem to cover-up low self-worth, like narcissists. Codependents are usually highly capable people, but many, particularly women, have difficulty motivating themselves without a friend, job, or external structure, like a class assignment. They look for confidence and assurance from others. The only affirmation you really need is your own, although certainly kudos from a respected peer are always nice; but if love yourself makes you uncomfortable, dont expect others to magically love you. Unfortunately, denial is a major obstacle, because Codependency is difficult to see in yourself. If a friend has directed you here, or sent you this, take heed, as such a friend may be your best mirror. Awareness is a major first step to a new concept, and awareness alone often alleviates many symptoms of Codependency. You may benefit from a short video about the 4 As of recovery: Abstinence, Awareness, Acceptance, and Action It is important to note that most people exhibit codependent behaviors in certain situations, and a snapshot of most anyone might be seen below; this is different from being a Codependent (capital C), who may be hard to find below! (dont worry, youre surely in here somewhere) This article is to help you find your Codependency, and it is not recommended that you confront or attempt an intervention for someone else, even if you know for a fact that they are a Codependent--while a very few may respond well to a book (such as: Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie) being placed on their desk, or a link to this article in their email, for most--especially those who identify very strongly or completely with their ego (your ego is not really who you are)--it will come across like an attack to them. We are dealing with the human condition here. Understand that if you come from a Codependent family, you have been practicing a form of nonassertive, or passive/aggressive communication for probably your whole life. Look into Non-Violent Communication, and give it a chance; this is how mature people talk to each other. Practice-Nonviolent-Communication.
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