I met my wife in middle school when we were 14years old. We were on and off for years until… I decided I no longer wanted to play double Dutch (jumping in and out )with her and we decided to get married. I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Nevertheless, being in love did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married way back when. Ive never told B this but The day before we got married I was really scared. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was B the right person to marry? Would she make me happy? That night as i laid in bed with her. I began to talk to God. As i was talking to him he gave me a crazy revelation .I was being totally selfish. I asked myself is marriage even for me, and I answered myself In The same thought....no marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.” It was in that very moment that I knew that Mari Grant was the one. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours(at one time ). And thinking back on all the times good and bad times together I knew she was always gonna love me. I had forgotten this night for a while but going through it this week brought it back. I know Im a crazy thinker but with most everyone today there is no commitment in relationships in community, we all have a “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one. No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?” Ive gotten off track like we all do at times and forgotten but remember B Im sorry and I love you. your still my heart
Posted on: Tue, 26 Nov 2013 04:16:04 +0000
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