I must say this: I am very disturbed by the number of friends I have who not only possess no sympathy for suicide victims, but actually blame them as if theyre nothing but completely selfish and self loathing. I feel that if you have not struggled with a depression so deep you feel there is simply no hope, then you are not familiar with what these people go through and you should refrain from commenting. If you have never known what it feels like to be in the depths of despair and couldnt find a way out other than killing yourself, well, Im happy for you, but I dont think youre in a place to try and empathize with victims of terrible depression. These people are fathers, mothers, sons, daughters, pastors, drug dealers, doctors, actors, singers, homeless, terminally ill.....depression knows no face or occupation. It doesnt discriminate. Theyre not (necessarily) mentally disturbed beyond clinical depression and no, they are not selfish; surely their loved ones will grieve over them for the rest of their lives, but thats not the same as being completely engulfed in depression with no hope for healing. Dont blame the victim, or call them weak, because it takes an incredible strength for them to push through each day. That being said, if you have ever thought of ending your life, this is for you: Promise yourself tomorrow. You may feel like killing yourself, but why must it be done right now? Im sure youve thought every day about what life would be like for your loved ones if you die, so live just one more day for them. Go and talk to someone. If they dont understand or dont seem to take you seriously, please be patient with them; its not easy for people who have never been depressed to understand. Just know that they love you and they are trying their best. Look around you and cherish all of the blessings you have in life; hug your children tight, call your parents just to say hi, tell your brother that you always argued with just how much you love him. Go take your dog for a walk. Think about how amazing it is that you and an animal could be filled with such unconditional love for each other, and think of how much he missed you that one time you went out of town. Take in a deep breath and admire the sights, sounds and smells all around you. All of these may seem insignificant but wouldnt it be sad to never see them again? Once the day is over, do yourself just one more favor: Promise yourself tomorrow. And then do that every day. And remember that what you seek is relief from your pain, but relief is a feeling. You wont feel anything after you die, which includes the feeling of relief. Although you may see no way out, I promise you, these problems are temporary. Youre sick right now and you need to do whatever you can to make yourself well again. Ps: incase no ones told you today, whoever you are, I love you.
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 07:45:26 +0000
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