I wasnt feeling well so I ended up watching some reality junk on Hulu today. My god. This is why I dont have TV. The one thing I wish people would stop doing is holding back and assuming things. If something offended you or youre not pleased with something, tell the other person. Dont expect them to know what youre thinking or feeling. Only YOU know what you really want and feel. Of course, I mean to do it in a classy way. Pull the person aside or just lightly say, I didnt like what you said/did, or, hey you didnt say sorry, or whatever. Dont start a fight, just listen and talk. I rarely get upset at another person. Why? Because I ask for what I want. If I dont, I dont blame it on others. It is up to ME to get what I want. And it drives me nuts when someone (like my previous ex) blames me for not getting what they want. And I hate it when someone explodes and throw all these issues from the past to a discussion. What the hell? Why didnt you bring this up in the past? Dont let things build. Either talk about it or let it go. No one is a mindreader. If you dont really want to ask, then you really dont want it. And if a person is going to judge you for asking something, then forget them. Why on earth would you want to be friends (or hang out) with someone who doesnt respect you? Or, for example, if I dont hear back from someone, I always assume the best. Maybe they got caught up with something, are driving, just not in the mood to talk, or whatever. If I am really concerned, Ill ask them point blank, hey, whats up? Everything good between us? And most of the time it has nothing to do with me. Hence, I dont allow myself to get upset without knowing the whole story. If someone offended me enough to where it really bothers me, Ill speak up. Most of the time, they dont realize they offended me. Or most of the time it was a misunderstanding and we clear things up. Then we let go of what happened and move on. If they intended to offend me or dont want to work with me to resolve the issue then forget them. Speak up. Dont assume. Let go. Move on. Boom. Done. No drama in my life. P.S.- Im not saying its not okay to have feelings or to get upset about something. Feelings are always valid. But we need to talk about it and work through it rather than holding back and getting mad at someone who has no idea what s/h/ze did.
Posted on: Sun, 14 Dec 2014 20:35:19 +0000
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