If someone is having a problem with a situation we will re-post it. It does not mean we agree with it, that it is our view, or we expect you all to change your view. The best way to deal with feelings are to get them out, discuss it. Those are the best times to reach out, educate, support, and listen. You dont know the whole story as to why they feel that way. Maybe a caregiver up and left the vet, got the kids and wont let him see them so the vet now thinks all caregivers wont be there for there vet or think all spouses are always looking for a quick way to bail and screw the vets. Maybe a caregiver had to remove herself and kids for safety reason and wants to be there for the vet but cant because they wont get help and he is drinking around the kids so a caregiver may jump the gun and think all vets are like this and tell all the spouses to leave and protect the kids on everything now. Im a Christian and I have no problem saying it, and if someone wants to talk to me about it great lets talk. But I also understand there are a lot of vets that have issues with GOD. So I let my ACTIONS say what my words dont because if Im compassionate and understanding to their views and what they went through and actually care enough to help most ask me how and why I do what I do, and then I can tell them. Instead of trying to force them to see it my way by throwing the You need Jesus hammer over there head repeatedly and brow beating them with it. Really now, who is that helping? Does it make me feel better because Im sharing the word of GOD? Maybe, but what does it matter if that vet stopped listening because I tried to tell them what they needed to do and force my views and opinions on them? Many vets of this war have an issue with Muslims, that is just a fact. So do we not talk about it and let those feelings eat them up inside? No lets talk about it, get it out and if you are a practicing Muslim you can show them that not all are like that by showing compassion and understanding why they have those feelings and reaching out to them. This isnt about being political correct or even spreading hate. This is about understanding each of us has been on a different path and things have happened that have shaped our feelings and views that still are causing issues in our life. This is about helping each other. Saying, I may not agree with you, I may not like what you are saying, but I do care about you and want to help you. If thats not why your here then Im not sure what we are doing, because that is why Im here. Most of us have found this page because our life is in crisis and we are looking for anyone to throw us a rope, to understand that we are struggling and to help us because they have been there too. Then we start understanding and finding our way, but then sometimes I think we forget how we were when we were barely hanging on. Dont! Use the help you have gotten from others here to pay it forward; to help others that are where many of us were not so long ago...Shawn
Posted on: Mon, 23 Jun 2014 05:17:52 +0000
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