: In response to someones plea for support in a difficult relationship: Do not ever accept someones demeaning or humiliating assertions about you, no matter who they are or what they mean to you otherwise. Say, I am not going to accept that from you. then WALK AWAY. Rehearse it as many times as you need in order to act on it. Do not try to set them straight; if theyre already on a roll, nothing you say will change their trajectory — unless its a total disengagement from the conversation. Hateful people have a deep wound that they are trying to make YOU responsible for, and even your passive acceptance of their toxic judgments serves neither you, nor them, nor truth. This is true whether they are a lover, a parent, a friend, or a spiritual teacher. Your value in the Universe is absolute, not relative. There is nothing you can do nor is there anything you have done to diminish that intrinsic value of your being. So the hateful things people think or say about you is NOT about you nor can it ever be.
Posted on: Mon, 22 Sep 2014 01:11:24 +0000