It seems I’m a red flag for never being married or having kids and as a result I get judged unfairly. I don’t judge a man on his past, inclusive of divorce and failed relationships, but instead I judge him on the present, as I want to be judged. The fact that I’m not divorced, never married and have no kids means I have no baggage and I’m in the free and clear to do what I want, when I want how I want with whomever I want. Perhaps it means I have not resigned myself to settling for the liar, the excuse maker, the manipulator, the guy who is hung up on his X, the cheat or the guy that can’t follow thru which seems to be the common theme. Or perhaps it just means I’ve had a lot going on in my life that demanded most of my time for a great number of years. Based on this I find myself having to constantly defend who I am, and who I am not. And it would just seem that if everyone judged themselves in the same manner, they wouldn’t have the time to judge a person that just has a history of meeting Mr. Wrong. So please listen and allow me to make myself abundantly clear. I’m a do’er, not a talker. I say what I mean and mean what I say and I expect the same in return. I know beyond reasonable doubt who I am and who I am not, and I have the utmost confidence in me as a human being and what I stand for. I have zero patience for false modesty or words with no meaning or intent. Life is entirely too short and time is never enough. So, if you have no intentions on following through on what you say, then do us both a favor and stop filling up the room with hot air. It’s not necessary!!! I take chances, lots of them and I take risks even when logic can’t support those choices. Regretfully, I’ve learned through my own experiences, that there’s no better time like NOW and waiting for the right moment may never happen. It may not make sense but it sure as hell will be fun! Life is NOT a dress rehearsal, so stop treating it and the people who come your way like a game. Life is not about winning or losing, it’s about enjoying the journey and making moments count and feeling like there’s NO PLACE you’d rather be. I have no space in my life for fake, phony people who say all the right things and no actions to back any of it up. Honesty seems to be an extinct character trait. And the prevalence of people who are always eager to take with no intentions of giving in return is exponential. I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more precious time with that which displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I am slowly learning to not spend excessive minutes on those who lie or want to manipulate or even better, those who do wrong then penalize you for your reaction. If you don’t like the reaction then perhaps it’s the action that needs to change. Just sayin’! I choose not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I hate conflict and comparisons. In ALL relationships I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. And on top of this all, I do not have patience for anyone who does not have patience for me and therefore does not deserve me. I am a constantly evolving, imperfectly perfect being and I’m proud of who I am. I treat people the way I want to be treated and if the people in the world just loved the person next to them a little bit more than they love themselves, the world would be a much nicer place and perhaps judgment free. So the next time you find yourself asking a person, “hey never married, no kids…what’s wrong with you”, pause for a moment and ask yourself the same question…
Posted on: Thu, 16 Oct 2014 16:24:15 +0000
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