Ive never really had a problem with saying no to people, but I always try to be polite and compassionate to everyone who comes into my life; I treat people the way I want to be treated. But once in awhile, no matter how nice, patient, compassionate, or understanding you are, there is always someone just waiting for the perfect opportunity to taint your reputation and spread nasty rumors to anyone who will listen. Case in point: As everyone knows by now, Im fairly expressive and open about the private messages I periodically receive from people who have nothing better to do than to share their unsolicited opinions with me, about the things they feel I should or shouldnt do as a public figure. Basically, what theyre really doing is judging me or chastising me for something Ive said or posted in a facebook status update. Ive been ridiculed by people for not liking the same music as them, for having a man as a best friend, for my Goth propensities, for not commenting on every comment I get in my posts, for posting too many selfies, for being too positive, for having too much joy, for not directly addressing political and religious issues, for posting pics of my home and my cars, for loving my Little LuLu as if she were a child, for not talking more about my private life, for posting pics of all the places Ive went shopping on a Saturday afternoon, for posting pics of fairies and dragons, for not giving enough of my books away, for giving too many of my books away..........You get the picture. But today, its hit an all-time low. To say that Im upset is an understatement. Actually, Im so shocked and hurt that I broke down in tears. Even my honey had a difficult time consoling me. Heres what happened: I logged on to facebook this morning and happened to notice a status update come across my news feed, about me. One of my fb friends had posted a status, stating that the reason I had surgery in November was because I had some kind of cancer, and that was the reason why I wear wigs all the time. First of all, I dont have cancer, and if I did, I may or may not choose to share this personal info with my readers and friends----I dont know, Ive never been faced with a decision such as this, so Im not certain how I would handle this situation, if it were real. Secondly, the reason I wear wigs is because I LOVE them; they give me the opportunity to change my appearance without damaging my hair with harsh chemicals. My surgery this past November had nothing to do with cancer, and even though Ive posted many times on facebook that cancer runs in my family, I, myself, have never had cancer......yet. (I mean, lets face it, none of us know what the future holds in regards to our health, do we?) After my surgery in November, this person sent me a private message, asking me the nature of my surgery. I politely declined to answer her, because I wanted this information to stay private. I suppose she was offended by my refusal to share the details of this personal matter with her, and this was her way of getting back at me. Yes, I was hurt to read this in my news feed. Yes, it really did upset me, knowing that she was spreading this rumor in such a public manner. Since she lives in another country, I dont know just how many fb friends we have in common. But because Ive already received several private messages from concerned readers---who read this alarming information in their news feed this morning---I felt the need to bring this matter to everyones attention. So, yet again, I am stating publically to everyone who may read this in their news feed today---its not true. I dont have cancer. Ive never had cancer. I wear wigs because I love them. My surgery in November had nothing to do with cancer. I am on the road to recovery. I am in perfect health. My New Years Resolution was to always remember this: You cant control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it. Well, its only the 12th of January, and I guess Ive failed my New Years Resolution; this womans nasty rumor hit me hard. But only for a little while. Im OK now. Stay strong, folks, and dont let anyone steal your joy! And remember, no matter how polite and kind you are to people, dont make the mistake of thinking everyone is like you.
Posted on: Mon, 12 Jan 2015 17:35:18 +0000
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