LADIES. ThERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN BRING TO THE TABLE IF A MAN ISNT LOOKING FOR YOU... Hey Kissy Please keep me anonymous.... I am in need of some advice. Ive been seeing a very handsome man who is very well off and doing well. He always says he likes women that bring something to the table . His last gf was very needy and depended upon him as she loss her job and her residence. Consequently, he moved her in to help her out which is what a man should do when his partner is in trouble. However, he did state it was a burden for him. He says he likes to buy stuff for his woman but to maintain her necessities was burdensome. As for me, I make an excellent salary and take care of 3 children with help from my ex-husband. I dont ask him for $$$ and I just want a man who can spoil me and not manage things I should be able to do on my own. My question is how can one bring something to the table if they( their partner) have everything they want and need? What can I offer besides $$$, to the table? Thanks for your time and consideration.... Signed, Overly Independent Black Woman ----------------------------------------- MY RESPONSE: What a person needs you to bring to the table depends on what their needs are. When money is already checked off couples are able to focus on the core things that are really important. People like people who inspire them, people who are fully supportive.. He may want a woman who puts hot meals on the table every day. He may want a woman who is his best friend. He may want a freak in the sheets. He definitely wants a woman who will make life easier for him. You just have to figure out what his needs are and get in where you fit in. The term Bringing something to the table is really a combination of things that would make you a viable mate to someone.. But at the end of the day you could bring everything he needs, but if he isnt in love with you, what youre brinGing doesnt mean a thing.. Cause more than anything a person who is looking for a real relationship and not looking for someone to use up, is looking for someone who will make their heart beat. P.S. His last girlfriend drained him, because she wasnt pulling her weight.. You might want to back up off him and give him some space. If he comes towards you cool. If not he may want to be single for a while.. But most importantly always understand that no matter how fabulous of a woman you are and no matter what you bring to the table if his heart doesnt beat for you, iTS NOTHING. Bringing everything to the table doesnt automatically mean a love connection.. Love isnt logical... Sidenote: Whenever a man asks me what Im brining to the table I know right away that hes not interested in me.. When a man finds what hes looking for there is no need to ask you what you are bringing.. He already knows what youre bringing.... And if he doesnt know what hes looking for he cant really appreciate whatever it is you are bringing.. Other times you may bring everything, but there may be one thing about you that he doesnt like that outweighs all the good and makes him uninterested in you... #KissyDenise
Posted on: Fri, 07 Nov 2014 17:05:30 +0000
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