Let me preface this rant by saying this....if you have to ask yourself (or me) if this is about you, it isnt. I am not interested in anyones opinion on this subject but by all means feel free to express it as this post will probably be deleted tomorrow after I cool down anyway. Those who KNOW me know that I dont walk away from people easily and that I have fought apocalyptic battles with my own demons and still do. To watch someone I care about lose their identity to the point where they can barely function on their own because of another person (in this case a man) PISSES ME OFF. Maybe it pisses me off this much because Ive truly been there and I want better for those I care about. But as much as this is about THEIR decision to change their situation, its also about my decision to walk away from these people who inadvertently try to pull me down with the same old bullshit. Why me? What did I do to deserve this? He says he loves me...blah, blah, blah. I have an addictive personality, I KNOW this and as much as I can become addicted to the most positive attitudes, I can become just as addicted to the negative ones too and I refuse to dive into that hole anymore. Suffice it to say, I cant save everyone but I will save myself. Its difficult to walk away from people you care about but sometimes you just have to. People have to find their own way in life, period. The problem is that we often cant fix our own problems because we dont think we have any. People are too afraid of being alone or being judged by other people negatively. No one wants to feel foolish or be made to feel stupid, we dont like being wrong. Sometimes it takes someone looking from the outside in to tell you Hey, youve got a serious issue here!!, without worrying about hurt feelings. I made up my mind some time ago that honesty was the ONLY policy and that I would no longer enable those people I care about (including ME) to continue to bury their heads in the sand. That has meant being brutally honest with some people. Initially, their reactions were hurt and understandably so as we are too often accustomed to being handled with kid gloves by our friends. Then after the initial shock wears off, they start to truly think about it and sometimes that light bulb comes on and they finally get it. These are the people that will pull themselves up, dust off, and realized nobody gives a shit about your excuses, period! These people will refocus and completely change the way they think, they will start looking at RESULTS! Its such a simple concept...results...and why in the hell havent I been looking at the results of the people I allow into my life???? Why in the hell havent I been looking at my own results or lack thereof in many cases???? My thinking is changing therefore my life is changing...POSITIVELY! Do what youve always done, get what youve always got. You MUST help yourself whether its simply looking at all the good things you have versus all the bad or working out or leaving a relationship that leaves you feeling constantly neglected and worthless with no self esteem....you chose to stay with a married man currently separated from his wife all the while he is seeing another woman while you cry at home....YOUR FAULT. I cant help you. HIS results should tell you everything you need to know...he is a liar, a cheater, and a user....YOURE results....tell me you have little self worth anymore and that makes me sad. I KNOW youre strong, and caring, and loving, and giving....but you dont and I refuse to watch you destroy yourself. Suck it up, buttercup. Its been SEVEN years...figure it out, put your big girl panties on and walk the hell away....or dont. Do what youve always done, get what youve always got!
Posted on: Sat, 30 Aug 2014 02:22:27 +0000
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