Mom Post: Please post anonymously: I strongly dislike my SD15. My dislike for her consumes me. This spoiled brat has been a pebble in my shoe since she was five. Ive tried everything in my power to love her as my own. Ive given my all and my last. Ive never treated her any different than SS10 (different BM, no drama) or our other 4 children. Her VHCBM has told her to tell me that DH is coming back one day, that she only needs one mother, that she doesnt have to follow rules in my house. A little backdrop to the story; weve gone months without talking to her because when she cant get her way, she disowns DH. DH and I split up for the whole year of 2011...during this time, he and BM were best friends, or so it seemed. She bent over backwards trying to help him cope with the loss of his family. He hardly came around to see our kids but saw SD everyday. BM also befriended me, I guess it was to stay in my personal business. Come to find out, she was playing us both. (master manipulator). And when we got back together, BM didnt want to be friends with either of us and decided to put him on CS for the first time in 15 years cause he promised us that hed never hurt us again for SD (but hes doing it now).... Last year on fathers day SD wrote him a nasty letter blaming me for their rocky relationship. She told him she hates him, hes a deadbeat, blah, blah, blah...on christmas eve she writes him again and asks him if shes a burden...she tries to make him choose between her and us (DDs18, 6 & 4). They get to talking and I take money out of my kids christmas and rush to the store to buy her stuff. She claims shes going to drop the past and try to be a part of our family. But it was all a lie. She just wants to have him all to herself and has no intention of coming around, yet she makes him feel guilty for not going over there alone. Ive watched this man cry for 9 years over this kid and now shes manipulating him again. He doesnt see the harm in just talking to her on the phone...he doesnt understand my anger. I have to remind him to call SS but he doesnt forget to call SD cause if he doesnt shell get mad and talk down to him. This is the only thing ruining our marriage. My blood boils when he talks to her, it reminds me of the pain he put our kids through for her that year. I see what shes doing and he sticks up for her actions and it really hurts my feelings because when she does this again, its gonna be me having to pick up the pieces. Sorry Ive gone on so long...I guess what Im asking is, how can I stop being so angry all of the time about this (I dont want to hate her)? I think he needs to hold her up to her promises about being a part of our family (why does she deserve to get her way after the way she treats us?), but he doesnt like conflict with anyone but me. ..RP -Mimi- Absolutely NO Bashing Please
Posted on: Wed, 12 Mar 2014 01:50:00 +0000
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