My attempt to take back or remind myself & others of the positive sides of words because perhaps our ingrained instinct to think negatively towards certain words that are just as positively impactful and powerful, if not more powerful than their assumed meanings, may explain why we manifest more supporting evidence for the negative perspective to dominate, in an impossible attempt to eliminate. quick examples: to be used or to feel like youve been taken advantage Who wouldnt take advantage of life-enhancing opportunities? Why would the kids not take advantage of the rides while wandering around Disneyland? Can you think of any experiences where you were disappointed someone didnt take advantage of you, & ultimately rejected any generosity, support, or love you offered? No one wants to be used? yet no one wants to feel useless? lol which one makes more sense? do both? we want to be appreciated or compensated for our efforts rather than do them with any altruism (all perspective) so only after a return isnt received even though never promised do most claim a feeling of being used, rather than a gratitude for being able to be useful for someone. Id say, if I dont have ulterior motives, then I wont feel used. If I dont clarify my expectations for my efforts, no matter how great the results, I have no sense in anticipating, my unspoken, solely assumed, and/or previously successfully guilt driven ideas come to fruition. otherwise if an agreement has been made & not fulfilled by one party, then ripped off or conned would fit better than used. Perhaps theres only the positive play & we all want to be used & without having the question to ponder, we just hadnt been able to voice it but now we can go tell our loved ones how we would like for them to use us today so we can feel appreciated, acknowledged, & admired in whatever roles & with whatever skills or tools we would like to highlight for the moment. & then let them know how you would like to use them when they are ready to be in service with requests such as: Id like to use you to lighten the mood, or ease the tension, or liven the room (see how they all could have the same outcome but feel different as requested), would you entertain or console us with jokes or inspiration. Id like to use you today to raise our endorphin levels, will you smile or laugh or revive all positive sensations, which will inspire many to do the same & share this experience. Id like to use you to reflect on my own thoughts & add to my ideas & inspire entirely new wave patterns that take my perspectives down the paths Id been searching but couldnt previously see. I think manipulation is a funny word cuz a lever manipulates objects we couldnt have used otherwise. For me, when a person manipulates others through deceptively destructive behavior for self gratifying reasons without any concern to the impacts on others, I question my ability to interact with them and want to warn others of the potential consequences. & controlling is also only an issue when its not Honored as loving & the desire isnt there. Realistically, without permission or communication in general, everything sucks to be forced upon. However all of us willingly, graciously & even with a sigh of relief, relinquish control of certain aspects of our lives regularly. Smart businessmen delegate responsibility regularly & people relinquish control often so they cant be held responsible, & we appreciate those whom have more skills to have full control over something wed like to have more beneficial results than we could achieve ourselves & some even like the feeling of concern when others show interest & a desire to enhance (all perspective) their well-being, mannerisms, or appearance & such. so heres to finding levers with & among each other that manipulate your lives in ways that exponentially enhance others lives, therefore positively manipulating many more souls than can be counted from the rippling effects & to controlling our destinies by being present to the bliss of relinquishing control & surrendering whether in harmony or cacophony heres to me having control over me to have the patience to ponder possibilities before responding, reload after reload
Posted on: Sun, 26 Oct 2014 17:16:56 +0000
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