No matter how good things are going for us, if someone we know is doing better it can sometimes leave a bad taste in our mouths. Havent we been working hard enough to land our dream job like our neighbor did? And how can that coworker afford the new car when were still struggling to pay the note on the one we have now? That hyper awareness of everyone elses situation leads to jealously, disappointment and sadness. Our victories arent as sweet because weve deemed them less impressive than others. Then, we belittle our accomplishments. That compliment we got from our boss? It wasnt a raise; it was just a few nice words that she felt obliged to say. And why even bother going to the gym today - its not like one day will make a difference in the long run. When you feel yourself slipping into this mode of thinking, I want you to remember a couple of things. First, you dont know what else is going on in that persons life. Sure you know what they choose to show you. They decided to share their successes and the things theyre most proud of, but they arent telling you about the things in their life that affecting them negatively. You dont know whats going on in their house. With their marriage and kids. Or the things they even feel about themselves. Never forget that we all wear masks. The second thing is this: as much as you want just give up, remind yourself that shrinking wont do you any good. Instead of undoing all of the hard work youve put into something as a result of the negative feelings youre having about yourself, do something positive. Dont stop going to the gym or going above and beyond at the office. Keep working on those side projects that fulfill you (even if they arent making you the kind of money you wish they were). And every time youre feeling especially down on yourself, remind yourself that you are worth the effort. chooseto
Posted on: Wed, 24 Sep 2014 17:00:01 +0000
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