References and Resources Chapter 1 On understanding anger as a normal emotion, see the essay by the American Psychological Association on the web: apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html On emotions, structures of the brain, how the brain works, and emotional regulation, see Daniel J. Siegel, MD, The Developing Mind (New York: The Guilford Press, 1999). On the negative effects of family violence and conflict on the mental health of teens, see Jenkins, J. Child Development, January 2005; vol 76: pp 24-39.; on the devastating effects of extreme conflict on the home on young children, see a report by The National Research Council, Understanding Violence Against Women (Washington: National Academy Press, 1996, p. 74-80. On the negative effects of anger on your health see “Can a Troubled Mind Spell Trouble for the Heart? Part 1. Harvard Mental Health Newsletter, Vol. 19, No. 10, April 2003; Anger Management Improves Heart Health, Archives of Internal Medicine, 2002, 162: 901-906; Elaine D. Eaker, ScD, et.al., Anger and Hostility Predict the Development of Atrial Fibrillation in Men in the Framingham Offspring Study, Circulation, 2004, 109: 1267-1271. Tool #1 – Dealing with Stress Much of the work in this chapter is based on the work of Dr. Bruce McEwen, internationally recognized authority. He advocates that while some stress is inevitable, being “stressed-out” isn’t. In his book, he recommends ways to learn to re-channel the powerful stress activators in our lives to make us more resilient. See Bruce S. McEwen, The End of Stress as We Know It, (Washington: Joseph Henry Press, 2001) On workplace stress, an authoritative resource is The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH). The document used for this chapter was a booklet called Stress… At Work. This booklet highlights knowledge about the causes of stress at work and outlines steps that can be taken to prevent job stress. It can be downloaded from the internet in either HTML or PDF format: cdc.gov/niosh/atwork.html For an excellent resource exploring whether or not coping with chronic problems differs in form, emphasis, or function from the ways people handle acute life events and transitions, see Benjamin H. Gottlieb, Coping with Chronic Stress, (Philadelphia: Kluwer Academic Publishers, 1997). On the beneficial effects of relaxation and meditation from lowered blood pressure to a reduction in heart disease, based on studies at Boston’s Beth-Israel Hospital and Harvard Medical School, see Herbert Benson, MD, The Relaxation Response, (New York: Perennial Currents, 2000); see also Dr. Jon-Kabat-Zinn, Mindful Meditation—Cultivate Mindfullness-Enrich your Life. Description and CD purchase: nightingale/tproducts_productdetailasp? productidn=12330 Another excellent resource on all aspects of stress is The American Association of Stress.For a general discussion of stress, visit: stress.org For stress and hypertension, visit: stress.org Hypertension.htm For statistics and information on job stress, go to: stress.org/job.htm For stress, type A personality and coronary disease, visit: stress.org/TypeA.htm Tool #2 – Develop Empathy For an excellent discussion and overview on the role of emotions in our lives, the following works are recommended: Daniel Goleman (narrator), Destructive Emotions: A Scientific Dialogue with the Dalai Lama, (New York: Bantam Dell, 2003). Daniel Goleman, (Editor), Healing Emotions (Boston: Shambhala Publications, 1997). For a perspective on emotions and empathy from a neuroscientist and therapist, especially as they relate to the developing child, see Daniel J. Siegel, MD, The Developing Mind (New York: The Guilford Press, 1999). A renowned expert in nonverbal communication, Paul Ekman led a revolution in our scientific understanding of emotions. In Emotions Revealed, he assembles his research and theories to provide a comprehensive look at the evolutionary roots of human emotions, including anger, sadness, fear, disgust, and happiness. See Paul Ekman,Emotions Revealed (Bellingham, WA: Owl Press, 2004); Also see Paul Ekman, Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage (New York: Norton, 1995); Fritz Strack, Inhibiting and Facilitating Conditions of the Human Smile: A Nonobtrusive test of the Facial Feedback Hypothesis, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 54, no.5 (1988):768-777; and Paul Ekman and Wallace V. Friesen, Facial Action Coding System, parts 1 and 2 (San Francisco: Human Interaction Laboratory, Dept. of Psychiatry, University of California, 1978). On the topic of Emotional Intelligence, or “EQ,” an excellent internet resource is http: 7seconds.org; also see a PBS video “Emotional Intelligence with Daniel Goleman”, (PBS Home Video, a Department of the Public Broadcasting Service: Washington, D.C.,1999). For a professional discussion of empathy describing the basics of empathy and empathic communication and their importance in numerous therapeutic orientations, see Richard G. Erskine, Janet P. Moursund and Rebecca L. Trautmann, A Therapy of Contact in Relationships, (Boca Raton, FL: Taylor & Francis Group, 1999). On the topic of Emotional Intelligence, or “EQ,” an excellent internet resource is http: 7seconds.org; also see a PBS video “Emotional Intelligence with Daniel Goleman”, (PBS Home Video, a Department of the Public Broadcasting Service: Washington, D.C.,1999). For a professional discussion of empathy describing the basics of empathy and empathic communication and their importance in numerous therapeutic orientations, see Richard G. Erskine, Janet P. Moursund and Rebecca L. Trautmann, A Therapy of Contact in Relationships, (Boca Raton, FL: Taylor & Francis Group, 1999). On the issue of parenting to raise more empathic and emotionally intelligent children, see John Gottman, PhD, Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child (New York: Fireside, 1997). Tool #3 – Respond Instead of React On flexibility being a sign of good mental health and on neuroscience research showing that the brain is constantly searching for signals from our body and then creating emotions, see Daniel J. Siegel, MD, “An Interpersonal Neurobiology of Psychotherapy: The Developing Mind and the Resolution of Trauma,” In Healing Trauma, Marion Solomon and Daniel J. Siegel (Eds)(New York: WW Norton, 2002). On the issue of looking at your attitude to regulate your emotions, see Doc Childre and Howard Martin, The Heartmath Solution (New York: Harper Collins, 1999). On being your own best friend to regulate your emotions, see Dr. David Burns, Feeling Good—The New Mood Therapy (New York: Harper Collins, 1980). On the medical benefits of listening with your heart, see Thomas Lewis, MD, Fari Amini, MD, and Richard Lewis, MD, The General Theory of Love (New York: Vintage Books, 2001). For a general discussion of responding instead of reacting, see Dave Ellis and Stan Lankowitz, Human Being – A Manual for Happiness, Health, Love, and Wealth (Rapid City, SD, Breakthrough Enterprises, 1995). On the issue of how different choices can lead to more happiness by nurturing traits we already possess, see Martin E. P. Seligman, PhD, Authentic Happiness (New York: Free Press, 2002). On a fascinating discussion of how we think without thinking and make choices that seem to be made in an instant. See Malcolm Gladwell, Blink (New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2005). Tool #4 – Change That Conversation with Yourself On the ABCD model of anger control, see Bill Borcherdt, ACSW, BCD, You Can Control Your Anger (Sarasota, Florida, Professional Resources Press, 2000); Albert Ellis and Robert Harper, A New Guide To Rational Living (N. Hollywood, California: Wilshire Book Company, 1975); Albert Ellis and R. C. Tafrate, How to Control Your Anger Before it Controls You (Secaucus, NJ: Carol Publishing, 1998). On optimistic thinking, see Martin E. P. Seligman, PhD, Learned Optimism (New York: Free Press, 1990, 1998); Martin E. P. Seligman, PhD, The Optimistic Child (New York: HarperCollins Books, 1995). The Self-Talk Solution is a wonderful resource. This valuable book contains detailed explanations of the self-talk techniques and their effectiveness in achieving personal improvement goals. Also included are more than 2,500 personal self-talk phrases for wide variety of self-improvement goals, such as controlling your emotions, improving your sleep, setting and reaching goals, having a successful marriage, taking responsibility for your self, and more. See Shad Helmstetter, The Self Talk Solution, (Boca Raton, FL: William Morrow & Co., 1987). Tool #5 – Assertive Communication On the Harmful Communication Patterns of “stonewalling,” criticism, defensiveness and contempt, see John Gottman, PhD, The Seven Principals For Making Marriage Work (New York: Random House, 1999). You can also visit his website for further information:gottman On the “magical formula” for assertive communication, see a 20 minute video by the Hazelden Foundation, “The Art Of Assertiveness,”15251 Pleasant Valley Road, P.O. Box 176, Center City, MN., 55012-0176. Call toll-free for information or ordering 800-328-9000. On giving and taking praise in the workplace, see James M. Kouzes, Encouraging The Heart (San Fransisco: Jossey-Bass, 1999). On viewpoints toward our spouse, see S. Murray, J. Holmes, D. Dolderman and D. Griffin, “What the Motivated Mind Sees: Comparing Friends’ Perspectives to Married Partners’ Views of Each Other,” Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 36, (2000) 600-620. On resolving conflicts in the workplace, see Lawrence D. Schwimmer. The Art of Resolving Conflicts in the Workplace Study Guide/Workbook. Can be purchased from Kontola Productions, LLC., Phone: 800-989-8273. Email: info@kantola On different styles of communication see the University of Wisconsin’s counseling center’s website.uwec.edu/counsel/p
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