Relationship Check!!! (A MUST READ) When in Doubt, Communicate! Marriages can survive money problems, career disasters, even affairs. But if you refuse to communicate, your relationship is doomed. For example, Bayo and Busolas marriage is in trouble. They eat together, watch television together and sleep together, but they are both lonely. It started when Busola said, I wish we could go to the KFC in Ikeja more often because the kids like it. Bayo decided Busola meant he was not making enough money; he never asked her, but assumed it. He decided it was best to become unemotional and not tell Busola his true feelings. Busola noticed Bayo was more silent at dinnertime than normal. She thought, He must not like my cooking. She did not ask, but simply assumed he did not like her cooking. She decided it was better to not bring it up. Busola was also sure Bayo did not like her appearance. Bayo convinced himself Busola thought he was a loser. Both had doubts and neither would speak. Luckily, both decided to improve their communication. While it seemed like the hardest thing in the world to do, Bayo forced himself to talk. Busola, do you think Im a loser? Busola replied, Of course not! I think youre an excellent provider. I just wish you liked my cooking and how I look. Bayo said, I love your cooking and your looks! Both of them were relieved. They set a goal to visit KFC with the kids every month. They no longer felt lonely. When In Doubt, Communicate! Repairing a troubled marriage requires much more communication than the example, but the key principle applies: So that is the basic lesson that anyone learns. They learn to keep their mouth shut, and its the wrong lesson. When in doubt, talk. When in doubt, communicate. - L. Ron Hubbard Any kind of relationship improves with communication: friends, co-workers, children, bosses. If talking about certain subjects is hard for you, start with easy subjects. Talk about anything. Then work your way back to the problems. Persist until the relationship is succeeding. Whenever you have doubts about something, COMMUNICATE! Talk, talk, talk until the problem resolves. When you feel stress, disagreement or resistance between you and someone near to you, the wrong thing to do is ignore the problem. Instead, start communicating. When a marriage is bad, there are few things more miserable. But when your marriage is good, there are few things more wonderful. Communication is the key. Please comment, like and share this blog with friends so that together we can build better relationships.
Posted on: Sat, 18 Jan 2014 06:56:24 +0000
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