Relationship: Where Are the Christian Men? She was a single Christian friend (totally just friends), venting her frustration about immature men. It was casual, because that kind of venting is common. It was over coffee. It cut deep. Christian men . . . ugh. As a male Christian college student with no wife, no steady job, and no financial independence, I squirmed with unease and insecurity. She wasnt attacking me; just issuing a general complaint to the universe. The words effortlessly flowed out of her mouth like she had said them a million times before, and I wasnt prepared for the adjectives that would be slung in the conversation: Immature. Childish. Lazy. Weak. Pathetic. Wait for it . . . Man-Boys. At a level, the tone we use to speak about young Christian men today would be self-evidently disrespectful in another context. And to state the obvious, it cuts the deepest when coming from our single female counterparts. There are a slew of legitimate reasons why a single Christian woman would be tempted to rag on immature men. (1) Secular women offer a pre-packaged and intuitive man-boy bashing liturgy. (2) She (or a friend) dated a guy, got burned, and reinterpreted him through the lens of hurt as a man-boy. (3) Taking jabs at immature men is a fun and easy way to sequester the chilling reality of singleness. Its understandable, but can I please say this? Its not okay. The term man-boy (sometimes man-child, baby-man, etc.) is a slur. It is used to personally demean and debase a class of Christians. It is a put-down. It expresses contempt and exhibits haughtiness. And, worst of all, it defines the value of humans in Gods image according to their gender performance. The Problem Is Not - See more at: adenikematt.blogspot.no/2014/10/relationship-where-are-christian-men.html#sthash.X7N2ZqAW.dpuf
Posted on: Fri, 24 Oct 2014 07:46:33 +0000
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