Signs you may be in a Toxic - Unhealthy - Unequally Yoked Relationship - Indicator 2: Overtime, you are distracted and pulled away from God and your purpose - can be subtle or overt 1) Says they want to pray and study but does not 2) Spends very little or no time in the Word, prayer or in service to the Lord; therefore they cannot and will not understand, respect or value your time and service to God 3) Their quoting of scripture, going to church/Bible Study, giving monetarily or in time and service is hit and miss or not at all - they do these things to be seen by the one(s) they are trying to win over (deception) - a form of Godly but denies the power within 4) May or may not want a true relationship with God but knows it is necessary to have you 5) Sees no real benefit to submission and obedience to God – only when it benefits them – (yours and if they have the ability) blind –> genuine faith (obedience when it hurts) – God first – His will - will be a (great) challenge for them – doing the minimum (to satisfy others not God) when you want to the most (to please God) will challenge them 6) Excessively occupies your time over time thus interfering with your time with God and you moving forward in your purpose and plan 7) They have no Godly fear - Reverence for God - therefore, they would never have Godly sorrow that brings about repentance to change - may want to change but cannot or will not stick to the journey - process of change, growth and maturity in Christ -> momentary fixes - patches to keep and hold on to you 8) In spiritual things, one person (the man or the woman) is always taking the lead not in submission to the others wisdom and understanding but because the other does not have it 9) They are (become) challenged by your spiritual maturity: that you know or speak the Word, that you seek to or try to live the Word, that you have convictions -> challenged becomes jealousy and or envy if not dealt with 10) Tempts you (and they may win) to set aside your convictions for them; often to fulfill THEIR wants/desires/lusts 11) Overtime, you are weakened by their words (or actions) that bring guilt, fear (of losing them) and or stirs up (flesh, lustful, material, etc.) desires and wants that were not intended for now 12) They will use your personal desires/wants, your love for them and their tainted love for you to persuade you to give into to them and go against what you know is right in God 13) If you give in, it is out of your love (mature and genuine or immature or misplaced) for them and to please them 14) There is often no (visible or verbal) appreciation or acknowledgement for your sacrifice - what you did or gave up or to them for them 15) They have little to no remorse or understanding of the guilt, shame, hurt - emotional tug-a-war (your love for them and your love the God) you may feel because you did something for them (to make them happy, to please them) that is against God; His will, His way or His Word 16) They believe (may or may not say it but demonstrates it in their behavior or attitude) those who have had spiritual input and counsel in your life prior to them should not have as or so much. 17) They believe they should have more say then them – as a spouse maybe but in a dating or courtship NO - ALWAYS seek the company (multiple people) of wise counsel 18) They may communicate that your submission should begin on this side of “I Do” verses on the other side – NOTE: “submit one to another (cooperate, listen, be flexible, be friends, respect and honor as equals – joint heirs: brothers and sisters in Christ) as unto the Lord” on this side of I Do – The SUBMISSION in marriage is to come under the position, authority, (Godly) leadership, wisdom and headship of your husband as your covering, protector, instructor and provider. For both men and women, before I Do, your submission is unto the Lord. 19) Though they may not overtly try to keep you from God and your purpose; they may make promises that they do not keep to help you fulfill your purpose and or they do very little to nothing to help you stay and grow in your purpose and or to get closer to God and remain in His will and please Him 20) The core is CONTROL and the root is FEAR of Truth (about self) #relationshipsrule #drtuesday
Posted on: Tue, 02 Sep 2014 13:59:47 +0000
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