Something Worth Reading!! Deceits and Lies. “Anything is better than lies and deceit!” ― Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practise to deceive! - Walter Scott. “Love is a verb, not a noun. It is active. Love is not just feelings of passion and romance. It is behavior. If someone lies to you, they are behaving badly and unlovingly toward you. They are disrespecting you and your relationship. The words “I love you” are not enough to make up for that. Don’t kid yourself that they are.” When Your Lover Is a Liar, nothing can heal the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal. But then again, some are compulsive-liars, full of deceit, and lies. So what do you do? When denial (theirs or ours) can no longer hold and we finally have to admit to ourselves that we’ve been lied to, we search frantically for ways to keep it from disrupting our lives. So we rationalize. We find “good reasons” to justify the lying, just as liars almost always accompany their confessions with “good reasons” for the lies. We are told they only lied because…. We tell ourselves they only lied because…. We make excuses for them: The lying wasn’t significant/ Everybody lies/theyre only human/I have no right to judge? Allowing the lies to register in our consciousness means having to make room for any number of frightening possibilities: 1. They are not really yours, or anyones. They lied to you, and will to everyone!!! 2. The relationship has spun out of control and you don’t know what to do? 3. The relationship may be over, but stupidity, fear and insecurity and selfishness for some, makes walking away a hard thing to do? Most of us will do almost anything to avoid having to face these truths. Even if we yell and scream at them when we discover that they lied to us, once the dust settles, most of us will opt for the comforting territory of rationalization . In fact, many of us are willing to rewire our senses, short-circuit our instincts and intelligence, and accept the seductive comfort of self-delusion. But why suffer for less? Why compromise for a liar, when there are more truthful ones out there? Surely, stepping off the sad, pathetic and idiotic emotional roller coaster must be better than sticking with a web of deceit. Why lower yourself to their low level by sticking with them? The only thing more frustrating than slanderers are low lives liars, who justify their lies every which way they can. But one morning, youll wake up and just say, Enough is enough and the rest as we say, is history!
Posted on: Thu, 09 Oct 2014 12:39:37 +0000
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