THE SECRETS TO DANCING LIKE A PRO When people tell me, I dont dance, Ive come to realize that this sentiment has only two possible meanings. I do like to dance Alex, but Im mortified that my particular brand of ass-shaking will lead to me being ostracized by my friends and all the other people who bare witness to. No matter how much I love to move my body, I just know that if I were to do so in a place where others could see me, it would begin with the utter disgust of my peers, and would end with a torch and pitchfork style pursuit through the streets. meThe first is Either they DO like to dance, but they are concerned that others will judge, ridicule, and chase them into the streets with torches and pitchforks, because of their particular brand of ass shaking, OR somewhere in the dark recesses of childhood, their dreams were crushed, and the light behind their eyes flickered out. If the former pertains to you, youre in luck If the latter is If either of these describe you, or youd just like to be a better dancer, youre in luck friend. I have in my possession the secret sauce that will ... but be warned, Compare dancing to a drug. A while back I took a girl Id been seeing out to do some salsa dancing with me. In order to protect her identity Ill change her name. Well call her Flindsey. Flindsey had only ever been out salsa dancing once before, well over two years ago. It hadnt been a When we arrived, she was immensely self conscious, regardless of the fact that she was a tall, beautiful, .... she insisted on having. But I wasnt about to sit there She didnt know the secret formula for If youre having fun, youre more likely to come back, to want to get better. Stop taking yourself so seriously, no one else cares what how good you are in the beginning. Im often told that Im one of the only male leads that actually smiles while dancing. SECRET #2 - ITS YOUR PARTY I had subconsciously internalized the secret of dance long before I realized it consciously My discovery came over the course of two nights. The first was a Friday like any other. Went out dancing with some friends, most of which were female, and once we got on the dance floor it was crowded like any other ... The only difference was that on this particular occasion, I was paying particular attention to the behavior of the other guys on the dance floor. To be more specific, the guys who were not there with other females. Some of these gentlemen were dancing with skill ranging from very little to quite adept. Some stood against the wall and swayed to the rhythm, and some literally just stood on the dance floor. We had our own little party, and they wanted in. They wanted the value we had. What if I focused on that dynamic, and embodied it completely? Are you ready for the secret sauce? Here it is. IF YOURE HAVING FUN... YOURE DOING IT RIGHT. Aim at enjoyment. Several times Ive received feedback from a dance partner that Im one of the only guys who actually smiles while dancing. I know Im not as technical as most of the other guys who frequent the salsa scene. Dancing is self expression. Some of the girls I enjoy dancing with the most are girls who are not super technically skilled. Some are borderline bad dancers, but they have a blast every time they step out onto the dance floor. Of course this is my personal preference. Some guys only want to dance with Dancing isnt about acceptance, or belonging, or looking good. .... everyone is out there, worried, hoping. If youre doing the first two right, The willingness to dance. To be seen. Improvement happens a whole lot quicker when youre enjoying yourself And of course this idea has implications which are far reaching in every type of human interaction. If youre generating an abundance of value, for yourself, and for all those around you to enjoy, youll have no end of people who will line up to join your party.
Posted on: Thu, 06 Nov 2014 00:34:37 +0000
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