The balance of marriage and the righteous wife. If one truly reads the Quran daily, studies the Seerah, and reads many hadith noting not just the words but the interactions and way of life of the Prophet (ﷺ) and the Companions we will notice that we, today, are far from their example. One of these is modern definitions of marriage and the roles of men and women. One example is how well known the hadith where the Prophet (ﷺ) sewed his own clothes and milked his own goat etc. This hadith is beautiful but it is often used out of context to make it seem like this voluntary act is obligatory on men... AND to water down the role and responsibilities of a wife and mother in the home, which is the most important role in society. What should be realized is his (ﷺ) wives served him completely but he helped them by doing this voluntarily. This is the true Islamic role and marriage that the wife should do everything as her duty to her husband and a good husband in return will choose to help and make it easier out of his good character. Be the good wife and the husband will be good, because as it says in the Quran the good woman is for the good man. In general the husbands nature is to be good to the one being good to him. If a husband is stressed and comes home to a true environment of peace, love and tranquility. Especially when pregnant the woman still has duties but the man of good character steps up his game and will help when he sees anything hard on the wife, especially knowing and seeing how she tries her best. When one sees the wife slacking in her role it encourages him to slack in his. The women must remember she is always obligated to her husband whether she has 20 kids, is pregnant, whatever! Lets take everything in context because *some* will bring up him voluntarily milking a goat, while ignoring that he SAID this... The Prophet (ﷺ) asked one of the Companions wives: Have you got a husband? She said: Yes. He asked: How do you treat him? She replied: I spare no pains in obeying him, except what I cannot do. The Prophet then said: Make sure that you obey him, because he is your Paradise or Hellfire (Tirmidhi) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise. (Tirmidhi) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity, and obeys her husband (always) she will enter Jannah. (Bukhari) The Prophet (ﷺ) was asked: Which of women is best? He said: “The one who makes (her husband) happy when he looks at her, obeys him when he tells her to do something, and does not disobey him with regard to herself or her wealth in a way that he dislikes.” (Nasaai) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anything other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman will fulfil her duty towards her Lord unless she fulfils her duty towards her husband, and if he asks her for herself when she is sitting on a saddle, she should not refuse him. (Ibn Maajah) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: It is not right for any human being to prostrate to another; if it were right for one human being to prostrate to another, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands because of the great rights that they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were covered from head to foot with weeping sores oozing pus, and his wife were to come to him and lick his sores (to clean them), this would not fulfil the rights he has over her. (Ahmad) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If Allah has blessed any of you with a good wife, He has helped him with half his deen, so he should fear Allah with the other half. (Hakim) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “No woman annoys her husband but his wife among Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn says, ‘Do not annoy him! May Allah destroy you (Literally ‘Kill you’)! For he is just a temporary guest with you and soon he will leave you and join (come to) us‘.” (Ahmed, Tirmidhi, ibn Majah) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “There are three whose prayers will not be accepted and they will not ascend to heaven or even go beyond their heads: … a woman whose husband calls her at night and she refuses.” (Targhib wal-Tarhib) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he stays angry with her all night, the angels will curse her until morning.” (Bukhari, Muslim) The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Any woman who asked for a divorce for no reason, the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden to her.” (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah) Our scholars say Let the woman beware of incurring her husband’s wrath because this will lead to Allaah’s being angry with her. - Sh. Muhammad Al-Munajjid If a Man is married with a righteous wife, he will live a ious life even if he is poor - Sh. Saleh Al-Fawzan When Imam Ahmed ibn Hanbals wife passed away he said Wallahi I lived with her for 40 years and we didnt argue once. He was asked how? He said Whenever she got upset and tried to argue, I stayed quiet. And whenever I was upset and tried to argue, she stayed quiet. ... [Obligatory note to not get hate mail: This post is directed at the women, advice on if they do this it may make the man also respond well etc. No matter the mans response the woman should do this for the sake of Allah] Islam The Peace Sharing The Ilm Mai Wohi Dost
Posted on: Sat, 08 Mar 2014 12:24:34 +0000