The code of inter-gender relations comes from this noble kind of love. It is generous in giving, while conscious of Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala (exalted is He). It is full of haya.’ Haya’ is sometimes described as ‘shyness’, but misunderstood to mean a desire to hide, to be nervous, overly self-conscious, and unable to communicate. This is not the meaning of haya’ and it’s a real shame that men and women are sometimes taught social anxiety in the name of haya’. Haya’ comes from consciousness of Allah (swt)—that a servant of Allah would feel too “shy” to commit an open and indecent sin in the presence of the Most High, that they feel humbled in the presence of the Creator, so they honor His creation. The believer is not a show-off for any of their blessings. Rather they are grateful, and hope to use their many gifts in the service of their Lord. One of the most graceful ways to serve Allah (swt) is by serving and honoring His creation, in the manner that He approves. This is our code as brothers and sisters. “The believing men and believing women are allies of one another.” (Qu’ran, 9:71) The 10 Principles: 1. Be sincere in your interactions. 2. Make your interaction purposeful and professional. 3. Cover your ‘awra (nakedness). 4. Lower your gaze 5. Keep it public 6. Protect your reputation 7. No touching 8. Be respectful of people’s personal space and levels of comfort 9. Speak in a decent manner 10. Ensure your circumstances are safe Read more about the practical implications of these principles here: suhaibwebb/personaldvlpt/character/10-guidelines-for-gender-relations-in-islam/
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